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writes:I'm married with two kids. We havn't even been married a year. We've been together for almost 5. And I love him with all my heart. I've known my best friend a lil longer. And ever since I met him, I knew we were meant to be together. But he had a girldriend, and they seemed really happy. So me and my boyfriend got married, and got two beautiful boys. They love their dad so much, and would hate to take them away from him. But i love my best friend as well. He loves me, and says that he has since he met me. He says he could treat me that much better, than my husband. We've been secretly seeing each other, and I love it. He makes me so happy. But because I've been so happy with him, i go home and reward my husband. I can't see myself leaving my husand, but want to be with my best friend. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): well im in da position u wer in a while back. i no my best m8 and i belong 2gether but he seems so happy with his girlfriend. so i have to move on but i never want to regret us never being an item, but also i don't want to regret not moving on. what do you do?????
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reader, rcn  +, writes (3 October 2007):
 I have to disagree with the other poster. You have an obligation. You got married to a man, had two kids. That's where it was to stop. This behavior is extremely selfish, it not only disrespects your husband, but it disrespects your children also. Now staying with your husband and continuing a fling IS NOT YOUR CHOICE. It's the choice of your husband when you come clean about your cheating. When you cheated you BREACHED your contract of marriage, giving up your right to remain married if your husband decides based on your behavior to end it. He should, and deserves to be given that chance.
You need to give him that opportunity to make the decision himself. YOU HAVE NO RIGHT to carry on with behaviors that have the potential of hurting others.
Your kids would hate it if that choice was made, but remember it's your selfish actions that caused it. I don't know how your legal system works there, but here the person who has an affair many time is not the chosen one to raise the children.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (2 October 2007):
Be real careful not to get caught for the sake of your kids. After all, one half of all marriages end in divorce and two thirds of all adulters who get caught get divorced.
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