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writes:I am currently going out with this man, who still has yet to end his relationship with his gf. He says he is going to leave her and I know most people would say to only believe him when he finally does. We've been going out for a month but have known each other for 1 year. I just recently found out that I am 2 1/2 months pregnant. The father is my ex-bf and we had long since broken up before I started going out with this man. I dont know how to tell him. I'm scared that once I tell him, he may never leave her. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): What a bit of a mess. Firstly why do you want to be with someone who already has a partner? Ask yourself how you would feel if that had been done to you, not good. You cannot of long since broke up with your bf if you are only 2.5 months pregnant! Why didnt you use contraception? It is a big decision to bring another life into the world.
I am not you, but if i was, i would walk away from all of them and decide if i want to have this baby or have an abortion. You and you alone are going to have to bring this child up single handed, so get your head right on this one.
You need to have a word with your ex bf and put him in the picture at some point and make some big decisions - this is a child's life at stake!!!!
I think you need to forget all about this other bloke.
Take care and keep in touch.
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (2 October 2007):
 you need to put the baby first.
okay, your current bf, who is still in a relationship may be weighing up his options about who he prefers to be with, but surely you deserve to be first choice, instead of second best?
the father of you baby deserves to know the truth that you are pregnant, he does have a input but ultimately it's you who has to live with the outcome.
be honest, you've done nothing wrong, if your bf wants to be with you, he'll have to understand, you've been understandng about his situation.
best of luck
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