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writes:My girlfriend is having trouble in college. She's trying to make friends, however, she made none. Everyone calls her name and looks down on her as stupid or a weirdo. I can't do anything to help her right now because she lives in Rhode Island while I'm in Hawaii. We are doing a long distance relationship and its been very hard because she is a very emotional and sensitive. I love her to death though. If I could, I would trade my soul to the devil and received eternal damnation just so she can be happy and we could be together forever. However, I found out that whenever she had a hard time, she's talking with another guy for comfort. I have always been there for her and now, I feel like I'm tossed to the side.. I know that when girls are having a hard time, they need to be around people but I can't be there right now.. She texted me today and said that she has feelings for this guy, but would never date him because he has gf and personalities would crash. I asked it they meet frequently, and she told me they don't because they both have gf and bf. So which would mean, that if I was out of the picture, she would try to go for him. I was shocked by this, so I broke up with her. Yet, she calls me back and says sorry and tells me that she loves me and how psycho she's been acting because of so much emotional or social problems. She been crying that last few days crying every 2 hours or so because she was so alone. I would fly to her anytime but she doesn't want me to because she has school and I have school as well... I care for her so much but I'm really stuck right now. What should I do? Do you think she really loves me or am I just going to end up hurting again? I need advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much with your advices. Right now, I am truly lost in this relationship and I only think its going downhill anyway. Most likely, it's over between us but thanks for your advice. It helps just to talk about it anyways. Sincerely, JD
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reader, sarah63  +, writes (11 February 2009):
I can understand your frustration. When you love someone the only thing you want to do is being with that special person and being so far away just complicates things. I had a long distance relation a couple of years ago and I felt exactly as your girlfriend feels when I couldn't be with my boyfriend. I think she loves you too but just the distance is making her feel insecure and all the problems that she is going through don't really help to the situation. Why don't you try to show her that you are there for her no matter what, use all the means you can to do that! Dedicate a song for her on her favorite radio station, send her flowers every now and then (I especially loved it when my boyfriend sent me flowers , call her to say goodnight, send an sms to say goodmorning. I mean, with all the technology we have today distance really means nothing! Try to make it work, I mean, if you love her as much as you say I think the try is worth it!
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reader, Hermione  +, writes (11 February 2009):
I understand how hurt you must be after finding out that she has feelings for someone else. But if you feel the need to break up with her to find someone who feels you are enough to satisfy their needs so they don't need to rely on another man, then this isn't your fault. Don't let your feelings of guilt stop you from doing this. Only you can be the true judge of your own relationship - is she just having trouble being so far away from you? Or is she just with you for the convenience of having a shoulder to cry on and a sympathetic ear when she needs it, instead of it being because she really loves you. You deserve someone who wants to be with you because of you - not because of what you do for them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYea. We met and dated physically for a month and then had to separate because of school, but I try visit every so often when there's a long holiday. I'm planning to go to her during Spring Break which is around Mid-March.
I also found out that she has really a hard time in college. All the seniors and freshman's are being mean to her and she doesn't know what to do. She told me that she lost herself and isn't sure of herself anymore. Like, she isn't being herself and has a hard time with everything. She even told me she that she doesn't know how I am anymore so I really know that she's completely lost. Help me with this situation. I love her so very much. Thank You for your replies
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): have u 2 met? if not, then go meet her, if u have met before , then tell her to hang in there and when you are on holidays you will go visit her. goodluck!
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