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*ubblygirl
writes:How do I get over this guy? Its impossible!Long story short, I met this guy 2 years ago and we started off as friends who developed into more. He told me he liked me, we hung out and texted nonstop, leading me to believe we were headed for a relationship. During that time tho (unknown to me until now), he was sleeping with/dating various other girls. Lately, he talks to me but only to have sex with me. Other than that, he outright ignores me.I know I deserve better and I know he's horrible to me, but I still cant help myself from wanting to hear about his life/talk to him and check his facebook. I feel like he owed me more and so I cant get away from him. Im tired of being depressed and waiting for something that will never happen.How do I get past this extremely hard task of moving on? I've tried no contact but I always fail when he starts talking to me again. How can I get my self-esteem back and get past this?
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (10 February 2009):
 Tell him to leave you alone. Then change your number, cancel your facebook. make it impossible for him to reach you. This is the hardest thing you will do because a part of you care so much and want him so bad. But you have to face the fact that he does not want you.
He only wants you for his own selfish needs. You are nobody's second helping. You are beautiful, smart, sexy and you deserve someone who will make you number one.
Guys like this is a dime a dozen. He is nothing special and you have to tell yourself that. There are a million other guys out there and if you are still hung up on this guy.. you will never find the one. besides, you are still so young. Learn from this. you don't want to put up with this crap for the rest of your life.
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reader, tweety1 +, writes (10 February 2009):
I'm going thru the same crap right now and its painful. I decided today to finally give up on this crazy person. First off you need to know that you deserve better. I've figured out that guys will treat us badly if we let them. Stop contact with him. Don't call, email or text. If he contacts you don't be too quick to answer. Go out with friends for distraction. Take the stuff he may have given you & put it in a box in the closet or somewhere hard to get to. That includes his contact information so you won't be tempted to call or text him. I know its a hard thing to do but remember...you are a valuable person with a lot to offer a nice guy who will appreciate it. Let this one go & don't let him use you anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): That has happened to me too. It is the worst feeling in the world to care for someone so muchjust to have them treat you so poorly. You need to go out with your friends go shopping have fun do things that keep your body and mind active soon you will stop thinking about him all the time. Read the book "he's just not that into you". He sees you as the ace in the hole the one who will always be around no matter how he treats you he does not respect you.
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reader, Plexi +, writes (10 February 2009):
 Sweetie, youre a bootie call to him, that's it!. keep telling yourself that and make a list of all the things you dislike about him untill you dislike him so much that it will be easy to ignore him. deactivate your fb account or delete him, dont contact him at all, if he contacts you say you are busy. you need to stop it because he is disrespecting you and treating you like you are just there for his pleasure
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