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writes:I am involved in a long distance relationship and im not sure if i should continue it...i feel like i want to be with other girls, and i know im not ready for a major commitment. The girl im with i see on the normal school vacations but i think she is ready for a life-time commitment. She is in the process of getting a tatoo that may include my name. How do i break up with her and not hurt her.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (4 August 2007):
 Hi there babes,
Bless ya heart for not wanting to hurt her but you really need to talk to her, tell her your both still very young and although you have both been having this long distance relationship your just not ready to commit yourself yet you both have many years a head of you yet and who knows what will happen within these years, people change meet new circles of friends etc....
Tell her the truth because you think so much of her and tell her you never intended to hurt her but your life is not fulfilled yet and hope that she understands you, you need to do what you need to do and its unfair on both of you to keep this relationship going....
This is going to hurt her hun, nothing you say is going to be easy but be open honest and caring and please meet up and do this, she will respect you for it later I promise you....
Its not a nice thing to do I know all the very best babes,
Love
Donna xx
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (4 August 2007):
 Having been in her postion very recently, I'm not sure there is an easy way to do this without hurting her I'm afraid. Are you sure you want to break up with her? If commitment is what you're worried about, maybe you could ask for things to slow down a bit. And DO make sure that you talk her out of adding your name to that tatoo, especially if you are feeling this way.How long have you been with her? I was with my girlfriend for over two years. I thought we were both commited to eachother, until one day she phoned me up in tears telling me that she didn't want to drag things out, rather than make things worse. I have a feeling that she ended it for similar reasons. She happened to mention that we were both very young, and shouldn't be as serious as we are.I'm sorry to give you this feeling, but I can honestly say, I'm not sure it's possible to end the relationship without hurting your partner. I would suggest that you tell her that you want things to slow down. Tell her that there is no reason that you both get into a major commitment so young, and that you should both live a little first. That's the only advice I can really give to you. I feel I have some experience on how she is feeling and thinking, but I don't know for sure.Sorry, I hope some of that was of use to you. Long distance relationships are a confusing game to play.
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