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writes:My long distance gf told me that she was tempted to cheat at a nightclub. She never actually cheated, but would have pretended it was me. We see each other once a month if we are lucky. She loves kisses and cuddles and always wants to feel me close.I am glad she was honest about it, but feel hurt at the thought of her with another guy. How should I take it? I really dont think she would cheat.She cheated on me many times in the past, but swore she would never do it again. Since then, she has been honest with me about everything. Hence her reason for telling me about this instance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe was honest with me.
We had an argument yesterday and she assumed we were over. A guy asked her out not long after and she accepted, wow, I never thought it was possible to get over somebody so quickly.
She was upset because of the distance between us and I mentioned that it would be Feb next year at least, when I next visit.
However, in reality, I was relocating 3 miles away from her house and was going to pay her a surprise visit this saturday. I am so glad I found out now, before all was too late.
She says she still loves me and does not even like this other guy. She would still like a future with me. Well she can do and kiss my arse and twirl my pubes. No way I would take her back after this. She tore my heart out too many times.
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reader, Prada +, writes (27 November 2006):
Okay well really the only thing that you can realy do is thank her for being honest with you.Or you can break it off because in long distant relationships you can not have all of the drama that other couples get because they see eachother all the time trust me i know how you feel i am in one myself.If you really love her than you just have to suck it up and try to move on but you can never hold this against her
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reader, guylostinlove +, writes (27 November 2006):
i just need to give my input on this ...
good for you that you are the type to still give her your trust after what's happened. i know majority of the people out there cannot bring themselves to forgive such an incident. i know i wouldn't ...
though, i always wonder why you would want to cheat on someone or even have feelings about doing it .. if you're in a relationship with someone. does that mean you don't love them?
what the first post said .. yes, she probably needs to stop going clubbing. or, she needs to go clubbing with friends that will pull her away before anything happens. alcohol can let down a lot of guards.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006): She's multiply cheated on you, and she almost did again, whilst she was in a club?
Perhaps she needs to stop going out clubbing and getting drunk. It's obviously her weak spot.
That said; if she cared about you, in the way you care about her, she would never have cheated on you. No excuses.
How can you ever really know she is being truthful with you? You can't. You've shown her that cheating is acceptable. She now knows she can do it again, and you will forgive her.
Perhaps it's time to either end this relationship, or make plans to stop it being a long-distance relationship. You need to do one on of those, sooner rather than later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, she always lied to me about the slightest thing and was sleeping with a neighbour countless times. This was early in the relationship and she promised she would never hurt me again or lie.
I made her promise to tell me everything, now she even tells me whenever she sees the other guy and every little thing she feels I should know. She doesnt keep nothing from me anymore.
There was a guy at this club who asked her, this was friday night. Today was the first time we spoke since and she told me almost straight away. I asked if she was tempted, she said no....but.. Then she told me she thought about it. I trust her 100% that she wont cheat, and trust her 95% that she wont lie. I love her more than I have loved anybody.
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