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female
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36-40,
*atalie_natt
writes:We"ve been together 1 and half years with the long distance. I met him and we've been together in england for 4 months and it was prefect. after that i had to go back to my country. everything was ok. we talked on the phone everyday and he came to see me in thailand on April 2010. we had a great time. we love each other so much. he always tell me that i've made him a happy man alive and he will never ever leave me or hurt me. he swore to his mom's life. so he went back to england on may but we were still together and our love grown up more and more everyday. He planed about the wedding. He tell me "love" everyday. He send me a letter and lovely present every occasion. i told myself that how lucky i am to got him in my life. we never gave up with the distance. i feel love from him more and more till Oct, we had a big argument. it was my stupid fault and i did, hurt him a lots but we made up and asked me not to start any stupid argument again. I promised him and tell him that i will go to see him on xmas. he was looking forward to see me and we seen each other on msn, we talked on the phone and bb everyday. he told me that he will show me how much he love me and treat me like a princess when im with him on xmas. i finally came there on xmas and it was perfect. i was with him for 10 days, xmas till new year. he took me to see his nan and grandpa. we had a lovely xmas dinner with his big family and everything was wonderful. (i know his family since i was in england for 4 months and we get on very well) He drove me to York and many place around the north part. i can feel that he love me. we kissed and hug, cuddle.brought us back a memories when we used to live there together but the happiness was end caz i hv to go back on 2 Jan. He told me and keep saying that he will come to meet me in thailand on april again like last year. he promise me before i left him at the airport. he was nearly cry out. he hug me and said we definitely see each other again on april in thailand and he love me so much. after i came back to thailand. we r still chatting on bb as usual and he still the same and planed about moving to live together this year but on 8 Jan, 2011 he wasnt reply me on bb and keep cutting off my ring. so, i kept call him and bb him to asked whats happen. he bb me back and said"nothing, he was watching cricket" and we can speak on the phone tmrw and he said" i love u so so much natty"but after that he wasnt bb me again, then i called him. when he picked up. he first said sorry and confessed that he did sth really hurt me so bad and he cant keep on hurting me like this, so he need time and space to sorted. he asked me to be patient and carry on my life. he confessed that he met a girl and she came to him and now he is so confuse. he cant even tell me that he still want me or not but he said he love me and dont wanna hurt me. he need to think a lots about it and want me to give him time and space. What should i do? i cant cope with the distance anymore. should i fly to c him face to face and make it clear?
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reader, auntieloulou  +, writes (13 January 2011):
 what a hard, horrible situation! you obviously care massively about this guy, and he cares about you lots too. i imagine that long distance relationships are really hard.i think that this is a situation where only you know what you should do. you obviously love him, do you love him enough to overcome this? if so, flying to england could help salvage this reltionship, but it could also be a wasted journey. you need to assess why he cheated on you. if it is the distance, why has he done it to you and not you to him? you need to follow your head on this one. speak to him and make it clear how you feel. are you angry? hurt? upset? see if he is sorry and desperate for forgiveness, if he is it might be worth a shot. if he is indifferent about it, i think you know your answer.i hope that whatever the outcome you wind up happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): It sounds like he is trying to do the "right" thing and also being realistic. He doesn't want to hurt you. All those miles between you has to be very difficult. Stay his friend but don't hold back from other possible relationships. If you were meant to be, it will happen.
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