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writes:i recently split with my boyfriend whom i love dearly,but i have been working hard and moving on with my life without him and i have been doing ok until today that is when my little boy aged 8 brought a card home from school for fathers day,the thing is his father does not want to know him,how do i explain this to an 8yr old boy Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): Just try to tell your son as honestly as you can that his father has left. I don't think it's a good idea to tell him fibs about his father's absence, as he'll only hold it against you in the future.
Also, I would speak to the school if I were you - let them know just how undiplomatic this is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): Your son is too young to understand, so you could try telling him that you will give him the card for him, then when he gets older, tell him about his father, meanwhile he grows tell him his father never stops working or somthing, if you tell him now, then him might think that his father left because of him, trust me, I went through that, not so pretty.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (13 June 2008):
 This is one of the reasons i dont think making fathers or mothers day/ xmas day cards at school is a wise move.
Its a thing that families should tackle, not schools. For lots of obvious reasons, not just this one.
I have no idea at all how you tackle this with your son, at the age of 8 i guess he is old enough to be told the facts, but not old enough to be able to understand them!
I feel for you. I might even of chickened out for now if it was me, and said he has gone away at the moment to work or something. Until i had come to terms with it myself.
But it will be interesting to hear what others have to say.
C xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): I have empathy eith you. I wish the schools wants to be more sensitive about things like this. For many years my kids had to make fathers day cards, we were divorced, and they did not see him often, but the worst was when he passed away, and the kids had to make these cards. I have a problem with the schools ....they should be more sensitive regarding this.
Very difficult to explain, but I don' know what he thinks or believe where his father is?
Mine after ther father passed away use to come home, keep it and on fathers day burnt it.........
I feel so sad that you and your child have to deal with this, it is almost cruel. My best wishes, and trust me, you will find an way to answer his questions; just be honest in a very diplomatic and sensitive way.
I hate schools for doing this!
Be strong!
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