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writes:I don't know what to do... I always feel so down and lonely... my life pretty much stinks on ice!!! I'm always depressed, nothing ever comes easy for me and I dont think I can handle it any more... and to put on to that misery.... I rarely get along with my parents, they don't let me hang out with my friends or anything. I have to stay in the house all the time and it sucks!!! I feel so alone... I don't get along with them or my little sister so I barely have anyone to talk to besides when I go to school. School is my sanctuary.I just dont know what to do... I have to be with them for another 4 years until I'm legal to go off on my own and go to college and finally be free. What should I do??Thanks
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (8 March 2009):
 Could it be that you're bored?
I can understand that your parents want to protect you, but would they now allow you to be involved in some sort of extracurricular activity? In other words, everyone needs to have a life. You're at that age where people begin to search for an identity and you need to try your hand at stuff and find yourself. Of course your parents don't want you involved in the gangs or on the street, but you do need to get out of the house and get involved with something positive, or you are going to go crazy.
Parents should definitely protect their children, but when parents are overprotective, it defeats the purpose because it can ultimately cause harm. It sucks to be bored with your life all the time, and you need to have passions and interests outside of school. Of course you're gonna get depressed!
Think about your interests and make a list of things that you might enjoy doing. Does music interest you? Is there some instrument you've always wanted to know? (Electric guitar is the best :) ) What about drama? Maybe your school has a drama club. Do sports interest you? What about horses? Riding lessons are expensive I know, but I hear that there are stables that would let you ride in exchange for caring for the horses.
My point is, that you need to have hobbies and activities or you're gonna get bored, it's natural. Think about what might interest you and see if it's a possibility. Usually something can be worked out.
(Justadvise is right, I am a woman and a female and I LOVE the guitar and I can compete with some of the guys!!)
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reader, triedit  +, writes (8 March 2009):
 Been there and done that. It will pass.Likely all this is connected to your changing hormones. Have you considered going on the birth control pill? Not for having sex (although if you are you DEFINITELY should be on the pill) but because it may help even out your emotions a bit--at least enough to get you through the next few months.I don't know where you live, but if you have winter that could be playing a part in this as well. A lot of people feel more depressed and angry in the winter and early spring.You write very well. Have you considered starting a book or writing poetry?
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reader, justadvise +, writes (8 March 2009):
you just need a hobby. Find something that you like to do and takes a little bit of time to do it. I suggest musical instrument especially guitar (trust me...the ladies love that). Not saying you need a lady right now but it will be a good skill to have later on the line
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (8 March 2009):
 Yeah ... pretty normal ...
I think 70% of people your age go through it. Its just hard. I went throught it. I didn't get along w parents, hated everyone, felt like everyone is hurting me and doesnt understand me ... it went away when I was about 17 and my life started to have a shape and I finaly knew what I wanted from my life.
Im sure you feel like you know what you want right now, but believe me, your ideas will chagne with time .. and so will your additude and people around you.
Don't worry. I know it hurts, I know you are confused and I know you are alone in your "world" ... but it will past, you just need to stay strong.
xxoxoxoxoxo Lierin
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): You'll be alright. My lil sister is going thru that right now. But believe me, this will pass. Read books, listen to music, draw, or do whatever it is you like to do. Those 4 years are gonna be here before you know it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): You are going thtough what millions of other teenages have experienced. Your body and mind are changing to become more independent. From someone who went through the same experience, I would try not to get so frustrated and be patient. In 10 years I can assure you that the world will look different. Indeed, you will miss your family when you move away so appreciate what time you have with them. Try joining clubs and friends will follow which should counter your frustrations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): do you have any hobbies? music? art? It is pretty common at your age, but that's the time to be investing in what you love. That will set you up well for the rest of your life after you move out on your own. I know it's hard now, but believe me, life does get better and you will probably flourish in your adulthood.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question thnks i can understand that
but it's really been tough
for me
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (8 March 2009):
 What you are going thru is not foreign, very common at your age and probably the next 4 years. I hate my whole family then, I thought they were all out to get me. When you are home just find ways to have fine, maybe TV, small chats with friends online or phone. Your generation is so lucky coz of all these high tech gadgets. For me there was nothing and we all shared one TV. So you really have it good.
And remember, they are not so bad, they are actually protecting you and you'll appreciate it some day. They are your parents not best friends. Nothing wrong with boundaries.
Good luck, and be good. Remember someone doesn't have parents and so desperately wishes they did :-)
K
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