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writes:Okay, this is weird and very confusing. Im in a LDR with a guy I met new years eve and who works away - 300 miles north - but we keep in touch on facebook. I really, really like him and the time weve spent together has been amazing. Lastnight on facebook we were chatting and he said he was worried our relationship would sort of burn out becuase it was long distance, and he said he was worried about other men and me cheating. I told him I really liked him and I dont cheat anyway, so he has nothing to worry about. I said to him if he wanted to finish it because he couldnt cope with the distance then thats fine. He replied that he definitely didnt want to finish it. The last message he sent me lastnight was 'sweet dreams babe talk to you tomorrow' before I went to sleep.So this morning, I log onto facebook and find that he has deleted me! WTF??? I just dont get it. Lastnight we were fine, this morning hes deleted me. I dont think its cos he has anything to hide - Ive seen all his pics and info etc - what the hell is going on? There have been a few comments made on my wall recently by male friends, which were quite flirty comments, but thats about it - nothing to delete me over....is it??? Im totally confused. Please help.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 Honestly if you really like this guy (as you claim) why not pick up the phone and call him? I think you have EVERY right to know why he did that.
I have to say though, that it sounds ultra iffy that he worries about YOU cheating, then delete you. You won't know unless you call and ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers guys. I just find it hard to think that he wanted to end it......lastnight the messages he was sending to me didnt seem that way at all, we were even arranging when he was coming to see me next. Then the next day, not even a few hours later, he has removed me. I am just in shock and dont know what Ive done.....probably nothing. Im not going to ask why tho, im just going to ignore it and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): My guess, is that he wanted to end it last night, but didn't have enough guts tell you, so he took the cowards way out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): I suppose you are in touch via other means, text or whatever. Don't jump to conclusions just yet. He may have deleted you in a moment of not thinking things through and regrets it now. I would leave Facebook alone for your relationships. When distance is involved, odd photos and comments can cause problems, especially in a new relationship that hasn't had a chance to establish itself. But if he has ended it by deleting you on FB - that is pretty shabby and he's not worth your time.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (11 February 2011):
 It sounds as if he has issues of trust and maybe he's seen those flirty comments and blown it all out of proportion. Men don't handle competetion very well in matters of love...it's a pride thing and he won't want to be made a fool of (not that you have done that, but just the way he's seeing it)
Long distance relationships are frustrating, even if you have spent time together in the flesh. You have only known him, at most, 6 weeks...it's a very short time to form a complete picture of someone and he is obviously having second thoughts.
I really dislike facebook intensley, it's like allowing anyone and everyone to know all your stuff and spy on you, people feel rejected if they are blocked or removed and the whole thing is a hotbed for suspicion and bad feelings.
I assume you are also talking to this man by phone? so why dont you give him a call and ask him to explain.
If the relationship is going to move to the next level then you both need to get out of the virtual world and into the real world.
Sorry your hurting, but talk to him...ask him what's up.
AE xx
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (11 February 2011):
 Ok, bit of a red flag here... he says that he is worried about you cheating.. then he deletes you off FB.
mmm.... I suspect there is more to this than what he is making out.
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