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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have found it very difficult to overcome insecurity. My partner cheated on me in the past once several years ago, and has lied a few times regarding his relationships with other women in the past too. There has also been a lot of problems with other women interfering, my partner seems to have a lot of girls fall for him and even if he shows no interest they stick around like a bad smell. Although I am happy with my partner now, and have forgiven the past, although I have no problems with trusting him I constantly doubt my abilities as a girlfriend in everything from in bed, to how I handle difficult situations/ arguments. It is very rare I voice my insecurities as I feel they are stupid, and he will think less of me because of them, or simply brush them off as me being silly as he has done before.I have actually gone as far as attempting to have counselling to solve it, but I found they concentrated on my childhood, and didn't solve problems just re-discussed them. I have also been on anti-depressant medication which had no results.Can anyone help? I have been with my partner 6 years and really want to get married and have children, but I want rid of this baggage before I commit to that extent as my insecurities cause petty arguments.
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reader, smiley_1  +, writes (10 June 2010):
 Hello,
Its never easy dealing with someone you love cheating on you. You've expressed you've gained trust back in your relationship which isn't an easy task.
You need to communicate and tell him what you're feeling. Otherwise he has no clue what you're feeling. Talk to him.
Good luck
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (10 June 2010):
Would you consider showing your partner your question?
It sounds like you have explained how you are feeling really well. You could let them read it, and then talk about it afterwards.
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