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writes:My husband has very low testosterone and does not use the hormone replacement patches or creme prescribed. He has no desire for sex and does not even want to want to have sex. I wonder if it is a psychological problem because of his being molested as a child and having a relationship with the mother of a teenage friend of his. He also said he was a sex addict. The sex stopped after he told me he loved me.It seems that the only solution is up to me. I either accept living with the rejection and feeling freakish, unloved and undesirable (I have never heard of a man who does not want to have sex.)OR do I take may chances and leave and move on? I love him dearly and he says he loves me, which I believe, but not IN love with me because of no sexual desire. Is it psychological and can be helped with therapy? Is there an alternative for me besides staying and hurting Or leaving the one I love so very much?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): I can really relate to your situation. I don't really have an advice ,but it is a long, and sad struggle. Maybe we could keep in touch here , and be support for each other, I know how hard it is ,not to know, what is behind all this.
But first I wanted to ask some important facts.
Does he get an erection, when he finally decides to have sex with you? Or he can't get an erection at all?
Please get back here, to talk about this in more depth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012): hi, just wanted to let you know you're not alone here. I'm a male & going thru the same thing but my story is just the opposite of yours. With me, it's the wife with no interest. I've had about 4-5 answers so far.. you can look to see what these people have suggested. The only thing I don't understand with your situation is your hubby losing interest right after he tells you that he loves you.I should contact some of the ppl.atleast that gave me some advice... Think my story was a bit too long to try to explain everything in detail...so I;ve told one lady so far I'd get back to her with the rest of my story. My wife lost interest several yrs.ago & then 2 yrs.ago we had a strange accident involving my camper when I was trying to move it out of a storage shed.She ended up getting hurt & had to have a hip replacement surgery.I feel guilty at times with her getting hurt. Not sure if I'd be alive now or not if she hadn't tried to help..(the camper got away from me when I was moving it out of storage using a tow dolly).But even before this happened, she rarely tells me she loves me & rarely do I get kissed to say nothing of never having any sexual life with her. Maybe I made a mistake one time since her surgery? I told her that we could no longer have sex because I was feeling guilty about her getting hurt from the camper incident.She had jumped in the way into the front of the camper to try to help me stop the camper as it was rolling down an incline at the storage place.I don't want to have sex if this will make matters worse for her physically(that's why we need to check with a doctor,which she hasn't done yet).That's more or less why I told her that we can no longer have sex because I didn't want it to cause any more physical problems for here like i already mentioned...& I thought by me saying "NO" to sex that would take away any guilt feelings she might have for not having sex with me... was trying to make things a bit easier for her... just not sure if that was the right thing to tell her cuz going w/o is driving me crazy at times.
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reader, White_Lilly  +, writes (5 June 2012):
 Hi,
There is something called asexuality, and there are people who just aren't interested in sex at all.
Here's the website http://www.asexuality.org/en/
They say it's 1% of the population.
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