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writes:My husband says he is burnt out on our 11 year relationship, i dont want to just throw it all away..am I only dreaming that this will work out? Reply to this Question
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 I agree with Carina on this one I have to say as you don't really explain fully about your situation.
Whether you have children and whether your relationship has changed over the years perhaps with them being involved.
If you don't have children are there other pressures that have been present for some time, like work or lack of work, money worries which a lot of us have from time to time.
Is your husband the main bread winner and he now feels that all he does it work and you don't have the fun you used to have together.
He is at least being honest with you in his own way but talking about it more will help and yes counselling does help, initially I would say Relate and they can then decide if Couple Counselling can help, sometimes they will put you in touch with a Sexual Therapist if there are problems in that area.
All is not lost right now but it takes work from both parties and it depends on if both of you are prepared to find out what is really the problem here.
Take care and keep us posted eh!!
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, Carina  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 Your question is a bit too short to answer properly without knowing the circumstances. In most marriages there are phases when one or other partner feels 'burnt out' with the relationship, but in the majority of cases this can be worked through with good communication and motivation on both sides.
I would suggest that you both go to see a couple counsellor, if your husband will go. If you want to write to me further with more details, such as, what are his reasons, what is he suggesting doing about it, do you have children and so on, then I'd be happy to help best I can.
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