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writes:Hi you all! maybe some one can help me.I have talked to family and friends about my husband and no one can help me.I just realy need to talk to some one.Well here it is my husband lies to me realy bad.In a mouth I have to tell him good bye.This lieing he does has gone on for five years now. But Iam haveing a hard time staying with him and how to let him know I cant be with him any longer.This is the hardist thing I have ever done to some one I love go.If any one can help me? It would be great. Thank you!! Reply to this Question
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reader, eve567 +, writes (3 November 2009):
eve567 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI will try that with my spelling,The thing is he has been talking to this one lady for about 2years he hind that to but she called him on his cell one night he said she was some one that he new from work.Know he is hinding it from me and other ladys to and I have never talked to them or even seen them.But I fond out that he has been calling them on his phone.And I told him if I fond out about it that would be the end.We had a fight one time and he said there is about 30 ladys he could get if he wanted too.He is good looking and lady just hug on him and talk to him and he does the same.I would say something about it and he would say he didnt know what I was talking about.So now I havent said any thing about it all and he still is talking to them.I just dont understand.I thought it was me maybe bushing him to do that but I havent said nothing to him I just keep up with his calls and when I fond out it was going on again I have to get away from him.We have lost are home and every thing you name it.His boss took his phone and car and helf his pay.He told me that he told them that he didnt want that job any more.Every one in the company has phones and they took his away.I dont know Iam just hurting so bad in side knowing what I have to do afater court. Well I know you all didnt know what I was talking about so here it is.Thank you so mush for taking the time to write me back.One more thing he keeps telling me all he talks to is his boss I just asked him to keep up with his min and he got so mad at me and said that.He gets mad at me alot now then he ever has. I have to keep up with things or we cant have a cell phone.
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reader, eve567 +, writes (30 October 2009):
eve567 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your help.It realy made me think about things.The good and bad.My spelling isnt to go.So I can only write what I can spell.No Iam not lieing about any thing.So ill just think about what you all wrote.
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reader, eve567 +, writes (30 October 2009):
eve567 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your help.It realy made me think about things.The good and bad.My spelling isnt to good.So I can only write what I can spell.No Iam not lieing about any thing.So ill just think about what you all wrote.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): "we have to take a class togather to finsh it.I want to so bad but I have to get this done before I tell him"
Strange.. that's a form of lying too... what kind of classes are these.... classes to try to repair a marriage?.... but that's another lie.. you don't want to get closer or heal, you want out.. more information is definately needed.. and I think it would help you to talk to us strangers.. you got a lot of things you need to say, right now your hiding and being very polite... and that is a lie in a way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): There is lying and lying... "does my ass look fat in this dress".. "If I died, would you sleep with my sister"... And then there are other lies... "why did you lie about your promotion?"... "your mother isn't sick, she sure looks healthy to me..."Serious lies... "no baby, of course I didn't sleep with her... "yes baby, of course I paid the rent."..."no baby, the police only wanted some advice from me to help them."As the aunts have said, you haven't really provided enough information for anyone to help you... If he's a liar and you hate it, then go see a divorce lawyer, why are you asking us for support, when we don't know what is going on in your marriage.... If you hated it so much, and was determined to go, you wouldn't be here asking advice from dear cupid.. what is going on, what's the story in your marriage.. what are these lies he tells that are keeping you apart?
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reader, tychan2  +, writes (29 October 2009):
Well speaking from experiance..I have been with somebody for 14 years and the day we got married 6 years ago he promised he wouldnt anymore..well that hasnt happened..I love him sooo much but I cant take it anymore myself..and it doesnt matter what they are lying about..its wrong and im still trying to figure it out myself to tell him its over..He realizes he has a problem with lying and he even looked it up in the net..he said he has a problem and its called a compulsive lyer..so I read up on it and it says to get out of the relationship and that being with somebody like that never works..but like I said Im still with him and have said its over but he still wants it to work out..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): Eve, there isn't really enough information here for us to really help you.
If you have been accepting and putting up with his lying for 5 years, what has happened recently that has changed to make you want to leave him?
Some men lie to make their lives seem more interesting and their lies are part of story telling, it is annoying, but perhaps harmless.
Then there are men who are compulisve liars that lie about small issues and big issues and simply drive you crazy.
Then there are men who lie in order to manipulate and decieve and to cover up illegal behavior or behavior that they know that you would leave them for, affairs, etc.
What is going on here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): I think you need to have a talk with him let him know exactly how you feel. Don't be scared to do it i know it's hard but if your not happy and he's not changing why go on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): What type of lies does he tell? Most people tell small little white lies, so they don't offend. What sort of lies are they, when does he do it, what things causes him to lie and keep secrets? What or who is he trying to protect?
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (29 October 2009):
 Dealing with a liar can start to send you crazy after a while, especially if they're of the pathological variety and actually believe their own crap. I'd just tell him straight that you've had enough of being taken for a fool. Good luck
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reader, j223 +, writes (29 October 2009):
Just tell him or just leave him take all ur things.
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reader, eve567 +, writes (29 October 2009):
eve567 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for writting me.I have to wait do to a court date and we have to take a class togather to finsh it.I want to so bad but I have to get this done before I tell him.And the hard thing is when he lies to me I have to sit there and look at him knowing I know the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): You need to just tell him you are not ok with being lied to, and do not wait to do it because it will just get harder.
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