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36-40,
*hrowinginthetowel
writes:My husband lies about everything imaginable. usually I have to accept what he's saying because he gets soo wild and because I know, realistically, with 2 kids, im not going anywhere. but lately, he's been lying about everything. he came home late and slurring on the weekend and yelled at me when I suggested he'd had more than 1 drink!! lying so blatantly has me wondering about the big lies I shouldve addressed before now, like the times I thought he was cheating. im soo over the lying and dis-respect, and the emotional abuse. for some reason whenever he does something wrong, its my fault, or he brings up things that I did 6 years ago (which Is always the same, because its all he's got). what do I do, its obvious he won't change and I feel soo broken down that either I walk, or I get over it, and just accept it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): thanks caringguy im feeling much better today. he agreed to counselling so i'll book us in tomorrow and see how it goes. I know what you're saying is probably right, but it just seems like soo much to deal with to leave him, all togethor. I won't live like this anymore though, so if the counselling dosent work i'll take the step. atleast it'll give me a little more time to figure out the logistics, if nothing else.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 September 2010):
There comes a point where you just have to put yourself. This is the time. This relationship is destroying you, and you know it. You shouldn't have to get over this, or accept it because he shouldn't be acting this way in the first place. His behaviour is appalling, and if you don't make a big change in your life NOW, you will wind up regretting it for the rest of your life. You need to be thinking of yourself and your two children here. This husband of yours isn't thinking of anyone else but himself. Clearly this relationship has been in trouble for a long time (he brings things up), and I think the time has come to make a break for it.
Get a lawyer, get away from this man. The time has come for you and your children to make a break for it and at least live with some stability.
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