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writes:I have found out that my husband of 22 years is involved with another woman, I have found out that he calls and txts her numerous times every day, I'm not sure if they have a physical relationship. Her husband has confronted my husband 2 times at our house, my husband denied anything was going on and they were friends and he had helped her. Do you think my husband has feelings for this woman? Do you think he will leave me for this other woman? My husband has left me once before for another woman but he came back. Reply to this Question
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (13 June 2010):
 If she's already left her husband, there may be a chance your husband is going to repeat history. Really, he has no reason not to; if things don't work out with the other woman, he figures you'll take him back like you did the last time.
The real question here is "what are you going to do about it?". Are you ready to take control of your life and send this lying, cheating dog on his way once and for all or are you going to live in a state of anxiety, worrying about the next time he decides to run off with another woman. Yes, 22 years is a long time, but you've got another 40 to 50 years to be alive on this planet and there's no need to spend them with a man who has so little respect and consideration for you.
To answer your question, no, don't confront the other woman, just start packing your husband's bags for him. The only person he loves is himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): I have found out that she is seperated from her husband. Should I confront her or leave it alone. And he is still constantly txting her even after her husband confronted my husband. The question is does he love her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): My feeling is that they are not involved and chances of your DH leaving you is very slim. Considering that she is also married and her husband is also involved. You have less to worry about. Another factor is the age also. He must be at 45 -50 range, so i doubt he is planning to leave you.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (13 June 2010):
 He left you once already, only to be taken back and forgiven. Now he's becoming more emotionally involved with another woman. Taking his past actions into consideration, I doubt things between them are completely innocent. Talk with him about it in a neutral way (really hard to do, I know), and make it clear you won't tolerate a repeat of the past. If he doesn't think there are going to be consequences, he's not going to take your marriage seriously.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (13 June 2010):
 Okay, not to be harsh, but you're kidding, right??
1. He's spending tons of time with a woman.
2. He's calling and texting several times per day.
3. He's a proven cheater in the past.
4. Her husband has confronted him.
You're asking if your husband has feelings for this girl? He's playing you for a fool, and you're WANTING to be in denial if you haven't let yourself believe what is glaringly obvious.
He's cheating on you, emotionally and physically. You don't need to catch them in bed together to know this. You need to kick him, and his lies and excuses to the curb. His mistress's husband needs to do the same with her.
I don't mean to be hard on you, and I know it's devastating to know that he's betrayed you again. But you can't run away from it, not if you want to move on with your life. You have to do what is hard, and you have to stand up for yourself. You're 41-50 years old. Your life isn't over, and you can't afford to waste one more year with this guy. He is a serial cheater who may love you as a friend, but not enough as a wife.
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reader, rcn +, writes (13 June 2010):
 I think there is reason for why he was confronted. Anything other than that you'd have to find out from him. It does sound as if there is a possibility.
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