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writes:*OP's Original Title*Dear Cupid, I'm 17, 18 in a few months. Never had a boyfriend. have however dated two guys unofficially, where we both liked each other and were looking to take it to the next level but were getting to know each other more before rushing into anything.. I was with the first guy for about a month and a half, and the second guy for two months.. It would have led to a more serious relationship with both of them, but they turned out to be guys i didnt think they were and i ended up getting quite hurt in the end..I have now been completely single for over a year and to be honest, as much as I feel as though I would love to have a boyfriend, and love to feel what others feel when they're in love, I don't think it's going to happen for me at this age. It's very rare for guys to be completely mature at this stage in their life, especially when they're 18 years old/in University/having fun. One thing is, i'm glad i've never had a boyfriend but upset at the same time. There are so many guys out there and I always do wonder to myself why i'm single sometimes.. Many of my friends even find it weird that i've never had a boyfriend and I do get approached when I go out but that doesn't interest me because I know that's not the way i'm going to meet someone.What i'm trying to say is, is it unrealistic of me to wait for the one special guy or do you think i'm living in some sort of dream world where i'm waiting for the one guy that isn't going to come...Looking back on the two guys that i was with, at the time i thought to myself that they were potential boyfriends, but analysing it now, they weren't. I didn't have the special connection with them, I did have butterflies but it's not the same thing. I wasn't able to be my COMPLETE self around them and I just feel as though that's what i'm willing to wait for.For that guy that I can get along with so well, be myself around, have fun with, connect with on a different level but to be honest, I don't even know if there's such thing..
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (13 June 2010):
 "I do get approached when I go out but that doesn't interest me because I know that's not the way i'm going to meet someone."
A mate of mine met his girlfriend in a nightclub and they are now happily married and absolutely perfect for each other... Its good to have standards, but keep an open mind as you may not meet your "special guy" in the way or place you imagine. He may not look, act, talk or walk the way you envision your perfect partner to be in your mind. If you keep an open mind then its not unrealistic to find someone special at all.
Good-luck :)
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reader, Opinionated one  +, writes (13 June 2010):
It's not unrealistic, you're being too self analytical, yet wise. Most people don't know what they're "gonna be" in life until age 27 give or take a few, so for one, an 18-21y/o guy is just putting on plumage and a show of what he wants you to think he is. If you make it to 25, you'll find that special someone and fireworks will launch.
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reader, justagurl +, writes (13 June 2010):
I didn't have my first BF till age 20, and up until then I was just like you. I was mature for my age too, never had a boyfriend in high school, and my friends questioned me too, but I never wanted one. I'm only 21 and I can safely say that we both have our whole lives to find that special guy, he's out there for both of us, you can't have unrealistic expectation or truly unattainable standards, but never settle for anyone it isn't fair to you and him. Once you find him you'll have to compromise and it won't always be easy but true love does exist, and be careful who you love. My first bf was my first bf, first sexual partner and first love, and now we're not together but the most important thing I learned from that relationship that is as long as you believe that you are worthy of a partner who will love you for who you are you'll find him!
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (13 June 2010):
 "I do get approached when I go out but that doesn't interest me because I know that's not the way i'm going to meet someone."
Umm well how do you expect to meet someone the i notice with women s they tend to over thnk everything.
Look your young enjoy your youth two things not to do dont get pregnant and dont get an std other then that stop over analyzing everything.
So what if the guy isnt perfect no one is doesnt mean you cant kick it with him for awhile and you should probably date a guy a few years older also.
and maybe your lving in a dream world maybe your not how do you kno your not dreaming rte now all this whole life is an illusion blah blah who cares its what you got deal with it.
do your self a favor the next time a guy ask you for your number along as he fits certain basic standards of human decency. give it to him. theres no sutch thing as a prince charming you girls have been falling for twilight and all your love novels hook line and sinker, men are human beings the only perfect one is Jesus and hes not interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): That is ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC girl! I had my first boyfriend when I was 19 and it felt good because that time I was ready. Don't need to rush things because there are so many guys out there and there are a lot of beautiful things to see ad learn. Focus on how to make yourself better as a person, a daughter and as a person you want to be.
I'm turning 26 and still waiting for the real and right love. The best things are about to come for those who wait and deserves the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): I don't think it is unrealistic :) waiting for a special guy is wonderful. Just remember to look around and not to miss opportunities when they come. But there is nothing wrong with waiting. Finally, I hope it comes soon!
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