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writes:I've been married for 2 years my husband left me n said he cant live with me anymore I really love him and want him home we have a 3 year old girl aswell. he won't cum n pick his gear up or answer my calls or txts I have supported him finacially since weve been married and now he says he can't live with me what do I do? help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): im so sorry ur hurtin so much i really do know what ur going through, my husband ov 22yrs got home from work one friday and told me he didnt want 2 be with me anymore that woz 10wks ago, i woz heartbroken we had been together since we were 14,i didnt eat 4 4wks and i still dont sleep, 4wks after he left he told me he woz seeing someone else i didnt think i could get any lower then he went and dropped that on me.he wont see,speak or even answer my txts its has if ive done something wrong im still wondering how he can go from such a great husband and father 2 such a cold mean man,hes acting as if i never existed,the point ov me telling u my story woz 2 tell u it does get easier that i promise u, dont give him the satisfaction ov knowing how ur hurting it wont help u let him think ur coping well think about urself go out have some fun show him u can cope without him when he sees this he will b thinking god shes doing well she doesnt need me that will then get him thinking and it wont b long b4 hes at ur door asking 4 another chance but play it cool dont b eagar 2 take him bk let him do the runing, i hope u find this useful and good luck 2 u luv traci
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): im so sorry to hear the pain ur going through i really know what ur going through my husband left me 10 wks ago after neally 27yrs together he also wont see speak or answer my txts then i found out hes seeing someone else im still heartbroken but i promise it will get easier. you try to get on with your life go out with friends spend as much time with your little girl and let him get on with it show him you dont need him and i bet he will come back when he thinks you dont need him anymore. good luck to you and i will be thinking of you.
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reader, pashanoodle +, writes (7 October 2008):
 Hey, this must be really awful for you - I am sorry you're going through this. How confusing and devastating.
I don't think there is a whole lot you can do - he obviously is wanting some 'space' and until he is ready to talk to you you are unfortunately going to have to try and ride this out. It must be just horrible to feel like you don't know what's going on, why etc. It's a pretty weak thing to do - to just go and not really 'talk' about it with you.
I suggest you try to focus on yourself and your daughter right now - get as much support around you as you can. Do you have people you can talk to about this? If not - my advice is to find someone - a counsellor even - you are going to have a million and one thoughts going through your head and will need someone to talk through your emotions with. If/when he gets in touch you'll need support to either reconcile or seperate. Your little girl is still young - but she'll be confused and wondering what's happened to Daddy too...so try to keep her routine/life as "normal" as you can right now - and try to guard your emotions a little around her if you can. It's 'normal' to be sad sometimes though - so you don;t have to pretend to be super chirpy - just try not to be totally devastated (I'd be feeling that) in front of her if you can help it. Be conscious of what she's seeing and hearing - that's all.
Hopefully your husband will be in touch sometime soon - so you can at least begin to move forward from this - whatever that may be.
Take care.
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