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*aggie212
writes:Hi l am a 43 year old woman,l got married at 19 l had my first child the day be4 l was 20 it was a baby girl l had another girl when l was 23 and a boy when l was 25 my husband was 6years older than me.He got very violent l try 2 keep my kids fron seeing anything he always said if l left him he would kill my kids first then me and then himself. I was very afaired of him beleived he would have done it. I found out he was going out with my sister l took it bad but stood with him 4 over ayear after that I left him after 12years it got to the stage i did not care wat he would have done l was better of dead than living that life. He came around afew times an beat me up but he soon moved on.About 3 months later l met a man he was the same age as me single never married, livd with his mum an dad l told him l had 3kids it was all great he was so good to me and my kids at first.He started going on about the kids leaving lights on pointing out things that they done wrong all the time. After we wer 2gather 4 3years we had a son n as our son got older he never done no wrong it was always my other kids.Then after 8years we got married it only got worse. He would buy biscuites yogurts etc, n hide them in the shed when l asked him why he was doin this he said the kids would eat them this went on n on. He fights with the kids lik brothers n sisters. My oldes son is 19 and very quite keeps himself 2 himself he plays the xbox alot so my husband never leaves him alone he goes on abt the smell in the room l smell nothing,he goes on about the electricity that my son uses. he goes on about little thngs like dat,he wou even fone me 2my wrk cryn about these little things.yesterday he called my oldes son a count n my son heard him say this,my son asked wat did he do for him 2call him that n my husband said your a wast of space,l just cryed 4 my son.I would like 2no what u think i should do?there is no way of putn him out cos he is not voilent towards me and me an my kids do nt want to leve our home.thank you for taken the time 2read this.Mags
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009): You are just so good!!!
I love you for your patience!
I pray to the Almighty that He eases your pain, give you peace and guide you to the straight path.
Unfortunately I cannot do more than this otherwise I would have.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 September 2009):
He might not be phsyically violent, but this is mental torture. You have to leave him. I know that's difficult, but you really must put yourself and your chldren first. They are going to be so hurt by his remarks that it would be better to leave. Try ringing a cousellor or helpline and see what they suggest. Men can be forced to leave if they are causing mental harm or physical. Please leave him. xx
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