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*rsccc
writes: help!i want to stop this emotional maddnes! my husband is a neat freak and i really just dont care. i really cant find motivation to clean the house. i want to, but when its messed up by him hours later i jsut say screw and dont do it anymore. idk what to do. this brings so many problems into our marriage. seriously! i really really need to find some way to keep myself motivated to do this for myself and him. Reply to this Question
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (1 November 2009):
 Then he isn't a neat freak he IS a control freak. I wouldn't do it. Not to be disrespectful but there is no way i would clean because i'm OBLIGATED to as a wife and a mother. no freaking way. don't let it become a pig-sty but if he wants it spic and span tell him to clean up after himself!
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reader, mrsccc +, writes (1 November 2009):
mrsccc is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe does that because its my responsibility as the wife and mother to clean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): Set a schedule for when you clean. Once a week for example. If he messes it up hours after you cleaned, he'll have to live in the mess until next time you clean. If he doesnt like the mess, he needs to clean it up himself.
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reader, MissKin +, writes (1 November 2009):
If he's a neat freak - why is he messing up the house? being a true neat freak means you DON'T make a mess. so i can't imagine it bothers him that much if he's the one making the mess. It shouldn't be just your job to clean either, you should both be cleaning. This has confused me a bit. talk to him though, tell him you're lacking in motivation to clean. If it's a serious problem (though im still stuck on the idea that he makes a mess and is a neat freak) perhaps you could seek relationship counseling to deal with his problem.
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