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30-35,
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writes:Hey Everyone,I went out with this boy, on-off, for about two years. He told me everything, and there was a lot of really awful experiences that he went through. In the end, I broke up with him (complicated reasons). We're still really close, I mean REALLY close. I can't imagine my life without him and I DO love him.I got talking to his friend, the complete opposite of him (happy-go-lucky, all round nice-guy). His friend fancies me (according to my sources xD) and I like him. I just don't know if this relationship could ever have a chance seeing as the first boy and I are still amazingly good friends.I'm so confused, I really need some advice.Thanks for reading,X
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reader, blaz£  +, writes (1 November 2009):
 ok well basically if this first boy is as close to you and this other boy as he says he is, then he would be able to accept you like each other. If you dont go out your going to be left with what ifs, that is going to drive a rift between you and the boy anyway bcause your always going to think he is the boy that stopped you going out with this other guy. either way you are going to have divisions if he is the reason you wont get with this boy. you have a choice between not getting with a boy you like and being divided from this other boy because you feel like he stopped you going out, or going out with him and letting the first boy prove that he is close enough to you to accept your happiness. Yes it will be hard for him but you need to do whats best for you, and it is not your fault or this other boys that you like each other.
good luck ok, i really wish you the best and hope everything goes well for you:) x
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reader, AnneLG +, writes (1 November 2009):
Having your ex's friend as a boyfriend is not a good idea. Not only will this 'friend' not trust you as a real girlfriend (he knows you went out with his friend and if you're willing to date him, in his eyes, that's not loyalty); your ex would be terribly hurt by this potential relationship.
You should also think of the relationship between the two boys. If you date this second one, his relationship with his friend (your ex) could be damaged forever. Your ex would be terribly hurt knowing that you dumped him, then took his friend away too.
If you love him as much as you say you do, you will consider this very carefully, and stay as just friends.
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