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writes:hi guys. my husband has been leaving on his own outside the country. recently i joined him there. but he doesnt seem happy to be with me. apparently its an isolated place with mostly men there. he has become so harsh with me. always finding fault with me or simply ignoring me, i feel rejected. has he fallen out of love with me or he simply feels uncomfortable with my presence. the spark we usually had before has faded.i try talking to him about it but he simply switches off. i just feel like going back home.we have a 3 year old daughter.i left her with my mother. guys help me .i am so confused. at xmas,i also discoverd he had an affair with this lady, but he confessed about it and asked for forgiveness. the lady is in our home country. does it mean maybe he was lying about the girl or i am just imagining things?all i know is that i am not happy here with my husband.
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reader, Latti  +, writes (29 January 2012):
It sounds like he is emotionally detached....and that's not a good sign. He is unhappy with your presence because his mind is somewhere else. I say this in love....but your husband may not be completely done with the affair (be it emotionally or physically). Right now...the best thing you can do is marriage counseling & WORK ON YOURSELF! You can't fix what's wrong with him....but you can fix you...your emotions, self esteem, maybe some inner soul seaching. You will be very surprised at how working on you....actually works on the marriage. Lastly, he is responsible for his actions....not you. His bad decisions....He has to change. Your decision now is weather you want to continue accepting his bad decisions??? If he refuses counseling....go home & work on you & focus on your daughter.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (28 January 2012):
 Honestly I would go home. If he wont listen to you when you try to tell him why you are going home then write him a letter and leave it for him to read when you are gone telling him how his behaviour is making you feel.
The fact that he asked for you to forgive him after the affair sounds like he does want your marriage to work but he is a fool if he thinks he can have an affair and then treat you like a doormat afterwards. If he really wants forgiveness from you he should be kissing the ground you walk on! Get tougher with him and demand that he shape up or ship out. Life is too short to be stuck with someone who makes you feel so unhappy and bad about yourself.
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reader, MamasLilFlowerChild +, writes (28 January 2012):
Well the way I see it, is you tried to talk to him about it. Try a little harder, and if he still doesnt want to try to work it out with you than you tried and you cant say you didnt! You dont deserve to be treated badly when your trying to help the situation. Maybe you could move out and back into your moms until he realizes your serious. Or, if the case may be leaving him until you get back on your feet! Just remember, you dont deserve to be treated badly! Good luck!
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