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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been treated three times for STI's in the past five months. My husband claims he knows nothing of it. I have not slept with anyone else except him. I now insist we use condoms and he complains its not proper for people in marriage. Should i just leave him, because are STI's not just signs of cheating?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 October 2011):
 Yeah a yeast infection is not necessarily sexually transmitted.
And a UTI is also not a sexually transmitted disease.
How were you treated... exactly WHAT infection did you have?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (6 October 2011):
 If you are just talking about an infection you have no grounds to even say you got it from him. Could it have been a yeast infection or something along those lines. I think you are jumping to conclusions here. Call your doctor and get the name of the infection. It could come down to he or you should have showered before sex and that led to the infection. I just have trouble in seeing how you call him so quick to cheat the second you have some sort of issue down there.
A bladder infection is very common and most likely has nothing to do with sex.
An STI is not just an infection. Take the time to check what you had and what constitutes an STI.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (6 October 2011):
You need to get professional medical advice on which STI's might be contracted by other means, and which one's have to be transmitted by sexual contact. The reason you need to seek professional advice is that your relationship is at stake.
Some STI's can be transmitted by sexual contact and by other means, which means you or your husband could have contracted it without anyone cheating on anyone. Some STI's can lie dormant for months or years, meaning him or you could have been infected a long time ago without showing any symptoms, and the symptoms might only be coming out now. Generally though, it is more likely that the infection can only be transmitted by direct sexual contact, and if this is the case, it means he is cheating on you.
Find out the facts, from there you can make the correct decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for the answers. Here are the answers to quetions you asked. I went to the local clinic. Apparently they just told me its just an infection after a physical exam. They didnt give me a name for it but suggested it was not one of those serious ones, all the same an Sti is an Sti. For all the times i went to the clinic my husband has been reluctant to go. So i am convinced he is cheating even though he denies it.
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reader, Uncle Charlie +, writes (6 October 2011):
If you are talking about an STD (Sexually Transmittede Disease) or a STI (Sexually Transmitted Infection)? Either the STD or the STI can ben transmitted by sexual contact, but the STI has a little more leeway. For instance, if you have a simple yeast infection, that can come from a number of bacteria and not necessarly from your husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2011): Some STIs don't have apparent symptoms in some people. Your husband also needs to be treated for infections. He could be passing it back to you after you're finished with your medications.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 October 2011):
 As this is an anonymous site, could you tell us which STIs you have been treated for? Some could be from his previous partners from before you were married.
I think taking him with you to the doctor for a frank and open discussion might not be a bad idea, just so you can have the information you need to decide how best to protect your health and well-being. Until he agrees to this, condoms.
Best wishes.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (6 October 2011):
Do you know what you were treated for if you don't mind me asking. Is it something that he can't cure and has unfortunately picked up from his past.
It is a really tough call to make only knowing that you got some sort of STI. Cheating is a possibility but just knowing this I could never justify myself in saying that you should leave him.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (6 October 2011):
 STIs do not appear out of thin air. If all of sudden you have them and haven't been cheating on him, then he has to be.
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