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writes:I hope you can help me I have been married for 22 years and have 2 teenage children. I think my husband is having an affair he is very secretive with his phone I have found txt messages he has sent to a woman he denies everything. He has had an affair in the past he left me and lived with another woman for 18 months but I had him back. I don't trust him I am very jealous of any woman he talks to and I feel I have to keep an eye on him all the time. I have very strong suspicions about this other woman she is seperated from her husband. What do the aunts think I should do.
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reader, hmcm  +, writes (27 February 2010):
i think you know the answer already, your cheking his phone and you are always jelous this is destroying you , you have to build your self esteme ive been in a relationshi like that and it didint get better for me trust is a hard thing to gain and it takes thee other persons complete openess and honesty while you get over parinoia so if they are doing things to make you feel that way then i would go with your gut instincts, they are there to protect you
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 February 2010):
I think you need a little more proof. To be honest, I would say that it does sound like he's cheating again. But you need more proof than just a few texts, so do a bit more digging before you confront him again. If it does turn out that he's cheating, then this time you must not take him back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): I'm very sorry to hear this sad situation.It will be difficult to gain trust after everything in the past. Your husband has treated you awfully before and there is terrible history there. The only adviCe I can give at this stage is that if you guys cant talk it out and resolve this trusting issue once and for all, then try seeking professional marriage advice where you both can attend to. You have every reason to feel like this, but at the same time, it was your decision to take him back. You both need to trust. Looking at txt messages doesn't make it right for you to do that. You both need to work on it. If there has been solid evidence that he has done it again, then forget about him for good before you ruin yourself! Enough is enough! Get counseling, do everything you can to help yourself.It can't be easy.Do you really want to live your life, always paranoid if he is going to cheat again? It will take over your life and you will get more depressed. Jealousy and mistrust is very unhealthy. Life is short, make it a good one! Things will get better and there is hope, provided you help yourself first. Good luck!
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