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writes:I've been married 2.5 years..My husband is british born and loves going out to a party. but his parties are all at the pub...they start in the evening and he doesnt come home till 2.30 or sometimes 4 in the morning. Earlier, it was once a week..but of late, its 3-4 times a week. he stays out all night, gets absolutely pissed and doesnt even know where he is. but yesterday was the last straw, a monday, he went out at 4 and came back at 3.30 in the morning. I Work in London and have to be up at 6 to get into work after an hour's journey. I am fed up. We have no weekends cos he is always nursing a hangover and honestly, I have lost respect for him as a person. I thank my stars I dont have a child with him. I want a divorce ..I am not ready to continue understanding his need to party. He is 38 and I am 34. Thanks for letting me know if I am overreacting.
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reader, romany +, writes (8 February 2011):
 I dont think your overacting, Tisha has given you some excellent advice, and I agree that he has alcohol dependancy. The fact he is getting so obliterated is enough to make you lose respect for him, unfortunately, until he accepts he has a problem, he wont get help, I think he needs to know how you feel, and if he still doesnt act to save marriage, you need to get out for your own health.
I wish you lots of luck.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 It sounds like your husband is an alcoholic. I don't blame you for wanting out, I don't think you are overreacting to his increasing overuse of alcohol.
I assume you have tried talking to him about it but he simply cannot control his drinking? Try to get him help, but in the end, he has to admit he has a problem and seek help for himself.
Perhaps trying an intervention with the help of trained counselors might be something to consider. Talk to your GP or look locally for organizations that specialize in helping alcoholics or family and friends of alcoholics, such as Al-Anon or AA.
Good luck to you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 Well, you're married to a drunk. Some people put up with that and some others don't. It seems you have had enough.
Maybe this is even silly for me to ask, but, have you tried telling him that you'll be leaving him if he continues to drink this way?
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