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*ierreH23
writes:Hello everyone, I have a problem I could really use someone to talk to over and get some advice to. Hopefully I can get everything across and make sense.I recently moved to a new area, have a job and am really settled. However over the last couple of months I have started developing feelings for a girl at work. She is a little older than me and is married.I have no idea if she likes me in any way or not. Im one of those people that even if someone held up a sign saying "I love you, marry me now" I'd still be unsure.But since i've started to notice her, she seems to be being flirty and going out of her to be friendly to me (touching/rubbing my arm, I catch her looking at me across the room, she sometimes leans in to ask questions on work (on a few occassions, questions I know she knew the answers to) she isnt like this with other guys at work or who we deal with at work).I cant really recall her being like this with me before -- could she be picking up on the fact I like her and is basically taking the ** out of me by trying to lead me on (she isnt that sort of person so cant see this being the case), or am I starting to imagine things because I like her? (even though these things are happening??)We talk a fair bit at work and she does tell me personal things. She also asks me about me -- if i have a girlfriend etc. She also keeps asking me how old I am.. like I say she is a little older and when I say my age she says something like "oh i thought you were a little older about 'her age'"I dont even know what Im asking, my feelings for her arent based on lust or sex - i just love talking to her and being around her.She seems to be having a few problems at home so could it be that im just a nice guy she can go to work with and forget about problems at home??
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reader, PierreH23 +, writes (12 February 2011):
PierreH23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for replying Ashley.
I'm fighting the fight to try and keep myself 'uncaught' but its getting tougher and tougher.
Your answer pretty much sums up what I was thinking so it's nice to know I'm not imagining everything.
Thanks again :)
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reader, ashley187  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 If she's having problems at home she might not be getting the attention she deserves and you probably make her feel good about herself. If she ever decided she wanted to be more than friends I think she would let you know. To me it sounds like there's an attraction there. Dont get your emotions too caught up in it though; remember she's still married! Don't allow yourself to get hurt, you seem like a nice guy.
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