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writes: I am married. My husband has been cheating on me for years. He is a great provider, however, the women that he is involved with over time do not give me no respect. This has bee going on for 17 plus years that we have been married. I have fallen in love with a guy who said he is interested in me. He told me the only problem we will have is time to spend with each other because he has a girlfriend. When we talk on the phone, I have to initiate the conversation. He use to call when we first met, but because he got me angry and I told him to go and f--- himself, things had changed. We used to be intimate and told me he don't want us to be intimate anymore. As time pass, he can't resist having sex with me, however, he states he is battling with his feelings for me, but because I am married he don't want me to get into any trouble. My question is, "How do I know if this guy is really interested in me? When I ask hime certain questions, he don't like to answer.
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reader, blackcoffee +, writes (27 July 2006):
Be careful girl, karma will come round and bite your ass! You know how you felt hurt and useless when your man was cheating. Why then are you putting another woman through this. Dump both guys and find someone for YOU and only you. Do not be willing to share a man. You might just have self esteem issues and men can spot this and use you. Find yourself first then find a man. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2006): Why don't you just get a divorce from your husband? Then you wouldn't be married and you wouldn't have to "get into any trouble." (So your husband is allowed to cheat, but you aren't? What's the deal with that?) Better yet, get a divorce and ditch the other guy, too. Both of these men sound like creeps. You would be better off meeting a guy who really cares about you and respects you enough to be committed (without any nonsense of having another girlfriend or mistress). Is there a friend or family member you can live with if you're worried to leave because of financial reasons? Maybe you could look at the roommate wanted ads in your local paper. Whatever you do, it seems like you should at least stop contact with both of these men for a while so that you can clear your head and make a heathy decision for yourself. This situation is not healthy for you, and it's one of those times when you have to put YOU above anyone else. (However, you didn't mention if you have kids with your husband. If you do, I suppose you really should keep in contact with him. I still, however, believe you should move out.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2006): Well i think he has gone cold on you because he has guilty feelings about cheating on his girlfriend and the possible fact that he has fallen in love with you and he doesn't know how to deal with it.
This is a real mess-if you both have love for each other then i think you should both be together not cheat on your partners because you WILL eventually get caught.
Tell him that you will give him some space so he can think about what he wants and how he feels about you,the space will give you time to breathe too,if he cares that much he will soon come running back with his tail between his legs and then you can both work out what you are going to do.
Take care hun and good luck-remember everything happens for a reason.
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reader, jezibelinhell +, writes (27 July 2006):
 Just because a man has sex with you doesn't mean he's interested. Signs of interest would be phone calls to see how your day is going. Invitations to dinners & movies etc. He'd want to spend his time with you. Sounds like you have two losers in your life. I'd get rid of them both.
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