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writes:I ahve been married 27 years but since the day I got married my husband cheated. I always knew but naturally lied to, but things have just come out. I have a twin he put his tongue on her while she slept and she woke up and freaked and told him never to touch her again he never did, but I have a yonger brother one year he was 18 husband 21 they experimented but not just then but seems every 4 to 5 years till 89, three times in all. How does someone get over all siblings? I don't know what hurts most - what he did or the fact he let me go so many years asking and lying. I find out cause I'm patient and all family no matter what smocks they feel bad. Family reunions sucks for me and to beat all he and my parents son are mad at me, thank god for my sissie. Can't get over it, everyday I try but 27 years I'm tired, God doesn't give yu more then yu can handle well he did me. Is my husband a changed man yes but way to much, not just what I jsut wrote but a lot of other stuff but I can handle that just the sibling thing and touched them both, and he knows that at times, alot, I can't stand the touch of him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): Sorry got cut off.
I'll finish off the sentence:
Or trying to be happy through hope but may not succeed?!
Question how you feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): God does give you more than you can handle. Why do you think people commit suicide?!
Ignoring God - people have their own views on him/her - again it does sound like he's a teenager. Just desperate for sex, for some excitement.
This depends totally on your own feelings about your husband. If you want to get through this then you need to make a stand and point out your not taking anymore. If you don't its totally cool. Do you have kids?! Because if you don't it makes things easier.
If you do, then consider their feelings but guessing by your age they're probably not very young and in the teenager region.
Personally I think you should erase your husbands feelings, and concentrate on how you want to spend your life. Happy?! Or constantly struggling?! Or trying to b
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): I have empathy with you; and you don't have to put up with this; nobody deserves to suffer such emotional pain; I do get the feeling that there is a lot more that happened that you are not telling us;
I suggest you leave your husband; HOWEVER get some counselling; somebody to help you to deal with all the pain; the anger the humiliation; to get rid of all the bottled up emotions;
There is a lot in life waiting for you to be enjoyed;you have safcrificed enough of your time and life to this man;
Move on; but do get some counselling; it will help you getting perspective and closing the door on the past;
Be strong; Best wishes
Keep us posted
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reader, andyb  +, writes (3 July 2008):
get this man out of your life before he brings you down anymore and if you have children this is critical.he is not a good role model for children.this is terrible behavior.for your sanity please put yourself first.best of luck.
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Also, I'd be curious to know if this behaviour stopped some years ago (you mentioned actions while he was in his 20s), or whether he is still like that.
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reader, oldfool +, writes (3 July 2008):
He sounds like a sex maniac who is depraved enough to touch anything in sight. If he was a 15-year old boy I might be able to understand, but as a grown man it's not good that he's unable to keep his lust within bounds. I'm sure that if the family dog could speak he might be able to tell a few stories, too.
Do you know if he's been placing his unwanted attentions anywhere else? Does he belong to any scouting groups, school camps, churches, or any other organisations where he might be tempted to take advantage of circumstances? If he does if to family, you can be sure he'll do it wherever he has a chance.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (3 July 2008):
I would leave if I were you.
He sexually assaulted your sister, and then preyed on your teenage brother. You have to know that is not normal behaviour.
If you don't have kids then go tonight. If you have kids then either kick him out or take them to a family member of friends house.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, LilzDon'tKnow +, writes (3 July 2008):
 If your husband is unloyal enough to do that i would be Pissed. Personally i don't think he loves you if he can do that and still sleep and night. If you guys have kids he would be the type to expect something awfull... Im ot telling you im simply giving you an opinion. I would leave for a while till he swears to stop on his life.
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