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writes:My husband and I argue alot over small things. He has been getting frustrated with me because I drive fast to get from point A to point B. I run out of gas quick, but its because I drove too quick and burn up gas alot. When he drives my car, he saves on gas. He threatens to take the car if i dont start being responsible in driving. He has also had an attitude when he comes home from work. I am 5 weeks pregnant. We get into it sometimes over things that arent very big at all, but I dont need the stress. Sometimes if feels like he doesnt listen to me. Oh and also, I do everything around the house. He sleeps all day and works all nite. But on his days off, he is still VERY LAZY. What DO I do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie  +, writes (4 October 2008):
 Don't drive too fast. There, that problem was solved very easily. As far as taking the car away, what makes him the boss? Who gives him the power to determine who has access to the car?
I've worked the night shift too. I hated every minute of it. I was never really motivated to do extra work around the house when I worked that shift. Of course he sleeps all day, he's awake all night. I'm interested to know if you work. If you do not work I believe the majority of the house work should be yours. If he's putting in eight hours a day at his job you should do the same at home. On the other hand, if you do work outside the house, he needs to do his share of the work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2008): Hey if you are five weeks pregnant you shouldn't be straining yourself by doing all things around the house.Would you be able to forgive yourself if something happens to your baby.Right now you need a lot of TLC.I am a new mom.So I remember that I used to have the craziest of mood swings till I was about 3 months pregnant.you need to be extra careful for the first three months and then careful through out your pregnancy.Let the problems between you and your husband take a back seat.I don't know if you are suffering from morning sickness but I definitely felt like strangling my husband when I was throwing my guts up every morning :).Its very natural and alright to feel irritated.I agree with your husband on the driving issue though.Instead of nagging him as this might drive guys up the wall try to explain things calmly to him or better ask your doc to have a word with him.if your husband is still not willing to help you around the house can you get a relative or friend to stay with you and help you out?
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