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writes:Me and my gf recently broke up. it was very messy for me but she seemed to get over it immediately, acting very cold. At first this hit me really hard, but then i realized she could very well be holding her feelings back so she wouldnt seem weak. We have been through a whole lot together, financial troubles of hers (lots and lots of debt, not making bills on time.) she told me she needs time to get on track and cant date me anymore. I was starting to accept it and stopped contacting her no matter how bad i wanted to. tonight she emails me and im's me telling her she needs help, she just lost her job, and she kinda needed like she needed to talk to someone. I miss her and am moving back to the city we lived in before i moved a week ago. is her contacting me for help her saying she misses me and wants to have me back in her life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2008): Well im sorry to say but she may just be using you....you are very much in love with her and I can tell but you must not get in too deep because you will get deeply hurt....I know that this is hard...because I've had to do it but you must let her go...if she really loves you then she will come back to the city and try and work things out...but hey you never know she may just be trying to ease her way back into your life and may want to get back with you...but it honestly doesn't sound like it since she always tells you that she doesn't want to be with you...and you just wind up in each others arms because that is easy to do...its easy to go back to that old flame because that's what you are used to..but this on and off thing doesn't work...so I suggest that you talk to her and tell her how you feel..and if she doesn't except it then tell her to not contact you anymore...and this is for your good so that you can get over her...(:
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reader, rudy~and~riley +, writes (4 October 2008):
rudy~and~riley is verified as being by the original poster of the questionactually, i told her that my dog misses her a lot. she really liked my dog and she said "whe i get my dog back and you're back in the city he can see me again" idk if that means once her life is better we can see each other again or if it means what she said.
so confused
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reader, rudy~and~riley +, writes (4 October 2008):
rudy~and~riley is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe has told me numerous times that she doesnt want to get back together. She would tell me this even when we were together...its weird. she'd be all back and forth. but at the end of the day we'd always end up in each others arms. She says she needs to find herself and that she's lost and hates her life. yesterday she told me she thought about jumping off the roof. i'm so confused. i'm moving back to the city to be there for her, even if it is a bad idea. i want to be there for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2008): This is a hard one to tell..there are two things that can be going on...one is...and i hate to say this...but it just seems like she is just getting in contact with you because she is down and out and has noone else...you love her a lot and she knows this that is why she has called upon you...so she may be there to get back on your good side calling you pet names and blah blah blah...just to get on your good side so that she can still have you there to support her in her time of need....or number two is...she may realize that she needs you and misses you..and may want to work things out..but the way you explain your story it just sounds like she's called because she has no help...please be wary..because you love her so much if things don't go the way you want you can be very hurt....by the way... did she talk about getting back together..???
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reader, rudy~and~riley +, writes (4 October 2008):
rudy~and~riley is verified as being by the original poster of the questionalso, she has come up with new little petnames for me and i think thats a thing you do when you feel affection for someone. idk i'm very confused as of what to say to her or do. any advice would be great!
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reader, rudy~and~riley +, writes (4 October 2008):
rudy~and~riley is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know what you mean completely, i already sent her money because i care about her, and thats that, but we've only been broken up for a few days and we went from living together and spending every moment together to being hundreds of miles apart. I dont want to let her down because she is in a real time of need and thats what a good person would do, but i'm not sure if i should bring up how i feel because it might scare her off more because she's in a hard time right now. god,i love her..
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