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*erry1
writes:I am married but I don't know what it is about me that I feel I need to have this affair. I have not yet gotten involved, but am seriuosly thinking about it. I have a few guy friends that really want to, knowing that I am married, but my question is should I? My husband is a great guy but at times, I feel as though he is not into me as I am into him. If a romantic evening is planned, I planned it, if we see a movie or dinner, it is usually my doing. So I feel I want this new closeness w/ someone that wants it w/ me. I don't want to hurt him, but who says he has to know. Is this wrong? HELP!!!!
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reader, perry1 +, writes (5 September 2008):
perry1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your input. I believe it is also fantasizing that another man wants me. But there is a reason as to why I have not gone through with it. But everyone's advise sure does put things into perspective. Thank You
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): You MUST tell him what your feeling. Tell him the things you want and that you want and NEED to work on your marriage. You are both in this together, you both made the commitment to each other-so you both must be honest with each other, and most importantly talk with each other about your feelings and resolve them. Tell him you need to feel wanted, and would like it if he would do some nice things that you do for him, however little or large. Just dont have an affair. thats the last thing you should be thinking about.
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reader, Lilly Rose  +, writes (4 September 2008):
 Having an affair on your husband who you say is a nice guy is a STUPID idea..and very selfish. What you really need to do is get the passion back into your relationship, the feelings you once had. Dont throw it all away on some silly affair it will only help for a hour or so then you have to deal with the guilt and that will ruin you! Talk to your husband let him know how low youre feeling and that things must change or your be thinking of leaving him!
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