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writes:I have a strange feeling my boyfriend might be gay, he's 26 , comes from a muslim background, very, very clean and organised, this is the 1st time he is in a relationship and he tells me he loves me every single day. When it comes to sex (and it's minimum once a day) he likes to experiment and he goes mad about anal sex which i enjoy too. The other day he went out with his male friends, got back home at 6am very drunk and agitated in a sexual way, woke me up asking me to have a threesome with another man (months before we've talked about it but he refused to do it unless there was a woman instead of a man) After insisting for some time on having a second man (saying he is doing it for me as previously I wanted it with a man and not a woman) I asked him a question in a joking way: What and how would he react if the guy starts coming on to him?- my bf took it quite serious saying that he would like to try it, after which (seeing the reacton on my face) he quickly took it back changed the sabject and within seconds was in bed snoring, leaving me shocked and paralised (ok, I might have over reacted but I honestly didn't expect that answer from him. Following that conversation, he doesnt want to talk about it and just stays mute whenever I bring it up, we didn't have sex for 3 days (which has never happened before) lots of arguments to the point that we have taken a break for 5 days and he went to stay with his parents (he's actually coming back tonight). So what am I to think, as its always at the back of my mind, is it just one of his experiments or is it something more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): I think your boyfriend is experimenting (perhaps too much) but is confused about his sexuality and his own words have shocked him - maybe he is confronting a lot right now and is not sure who he is or what he feels. I think to have this space is a good idea until he has sorted his head out because an important thing is that you don't get emotionally damaged in some way with all this change of mind. Personally and this is only my hunch, I think given the fact he likes anal sex so much and now seems content with the idea of sex with another man then he could well be bi at the very least.
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reader, babybiy  +, writes (5 September 2008):
 ok tell him to tell you if he is gay that you would understand but if he wont talk that you will break up with him cause usually if your together them your suppose to tell eachother what's wrong.
~Amber~
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): Hi again, I'm the one who posted the question, forgot to add one important fact, I have nothing against having a threesome as it is something that I wanted to do for some time now, but what realy bothers me is that my boyfriend does not want another woman to join us, which is what you'd expect from a guy (one man, two women, fantasy of any straight man, is it not??). So, does anyone have any ideas on whats going on here? Thanx
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