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writes:I feel like I'm unable to move on because he's always on the back of my mind. I'm holding on to that little bit of hope that things will work between us, that's what my heart wants. But my head is telling me that it's never going to work and that I need to move on. But of course being the emotional person that I am, I'm listening to my heart rather than following the logical choice.I see him online all the time on aim and facebook and that doesn't help. I don't even use aim, I only use it because of him. I sign on hoping he'll talk to me and it kills me to see his username online and not talk to him. We use to talk all the time and now....nothing. We stopped talking so much after we went out on a date...which I thought went well since he asked me out at the end of it. He'll say he wants to go out, but never sets a date. I know he's string me along, showing interest but not really. The thing is we never even went out except a few times. So I shouldn't be this attached to him. I don't even know him that well, but of what I do know, I really like. And I want to get to know him...even as friends. But I don't know how to go about doing it. Any words of wisdom? :(
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reader, _nataliebeebaybee1  +, writes (12 January 2011):
 well it is tough because like you said you havnt seen this boy much , but yet you seem to have intense feelings for him ! this sounds as though hes constantly on your mind and your desperate for things to work out. Some could say hes stringing you along, but some might say hes playing hard to get. (alot of boys are known for that)
approach him about the situation, i dont think this is a heart over the head thing , at the end of the day he wont make dates with you , he might be busy ! dont beat yourself up too much about it.
In my opinion i dont think you should let this slip away , try your hardest to get with him and if it doesnt work THEN move on. you seem to be AVOIDING him, maybe hes waiting for you to make the move to talk to him. If he really likes you , he will eventually move on ! If not you know he isnt mr right ! x
goodluck !
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): I don't think he sees it going any further, otherwise he would have set a date. You are right not to contact him. Leave well alone. You have a big crush on him and I know it is so painful to have very strong feelings for someone who does not think about you in the same way. If you can, don't go on Facebook or any site you are likely to see him for a while. You are just tormenting yourself. Try to cut him out of your life. Set yourself maybe a month of not seeing him online or in any way, then another month. Slowly you will get over him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): This guy isn't worth your time because his communication isn't clear to you, what he wants or what he's seeking in you, or out of the situation. BOTH the mind AND heart should be balanced when it comes to relationships. It's important for one to not overrule the other, simply because judgment could be clouded. Since you have your doubts and both things dont check out, you should move on and cut off this guy from your life entirely so that you dont risk any high emotions. Good luck.
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