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writes:hii met his girl at work a month ago and we immediately go on well together. I absolutely loved her personality and her looks but I thought I'd get to know her a bit more before making any moves. She kept mentioning her ex and the stupid things he did and she always teased me. towards the end of the week, we had a work night out and she asked if I wanted to go with her as she didn't really know anyone else there. I accepted and we exchanged numbers. That night we had a great conversation but she also mentioned that she has a boyfriend. I still spoke to her at work after this and we got to know each other very well and my attraction to her still grew. She would always text me asking what I'd be doing on the weekend etc. Then one day she sent a message saying that she split up with her boyfriend. I replied saying I hope that she'll be ok and if she wanted to chat just to give me a buzz. Back at work, I never brought up the topic of her splitting up, but later that week she asked if I wanted to watch some sports in a bar with her on the weekend. I initially accepted her offer, but then made an excuse the day before. Even though I was attracted to her, I didn't want to be on a re-bound sort of date, if that makes any sense. A colleague informed me that she had got back together with her boyfriend a couple of days after her breakup.Anyway, the next week she asked me if I wanted to watch a film with her at her place. I would have felt bad if I declined so I went along and we got a takeaway and watched a film together. Both of us had a great night and she asked if we could do something together again soon. I left later, gave her a hug and we're still chatting away till this day.I just want to know what I should do. My head tells me to get over her and move on, but I just can't let go of the feelings I have for her. I love being in her company and I think at the moment because I'm working in a new place the companionship is one of the things thats attracting me to her. Also is it odd for a girl with a boyfriend to invite another guy over to watch films and have takeaway that she has only known for a very short time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2012): I would move on because once you and her get together she will be still going with you and inviting other guys over to watch a film. She shouldn't be inviting you over while dating another guy. She needs to get her self together before messing around with you. If you looking for a serious young lady then I would cut all contacts with with this chick.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (13 July 2012):
 Have you asked her personally if she is back with her boyfriend? You have "heard" she is back with her boyfriend, but you do not know that for a fact, so I would ask her. I wouldn't let go until you find out what she is thinking. At some point I would tell her that you like her for more than a friend and if that is all she wants, you are not sure you can be just friends with her.
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