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writes:Hi. My name is Caity and my boyfriend's name is Damien. We are both fifteen and have been going out for 13 months now. The problem is, he won't tell his parents that I exist. When I ask him why he says he doesn't know, or that his father is strict. The only thing I know about his dad is that he used to be in the army. I try to be patient but it is really eating at me! What can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Straight Up  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 just like lauraE said his parent maybe very stict and protective over him and as you are 13-15 years old i don't think you should worried about. as you do have time to grow unless you guys are planning to get married or you definitely know your going to stay together for ever. i wouldn't worry about to much just forcus on you to for now the parents will come later
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reader, LauraE +, writes (2 July 2007):
A few parents are ridiculously strict, nosy, or controlling. Maybe he just doesn’t want the hassle that introducing you would bring, because he knows from experience with his friends that it isn’t worth it. Of course there may be more to it. He might be ashamed of his family for any number of reasons. He might be afraid of losing you. But you have been together for a while now, so I think you deserve at least a proper explanation of what the problem is. Sit him down and ask him straight – not casually whilst you are doing something else – look him in the eye. If he is evasive, reassure him that you aren’t going to think the worse of him whatever his reasons are, but you do have to know why. If you do end up meeting them, it doesn’t have to be a big event. At first, you could just stop by their house on the way somewhere and say hello.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (2 July 2007):
 Try sitting down and asking why again he wont tell his folks. If he says cause his dad is strict ask him what you think his dad will say or do. Suggest he takes you home to meet his dad one night for dinner xxxxx
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