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writes:hi there - reallly needing some advice! met a man on an online dating website. We went out for three months - not long some might say but we saw each other every weekend even though he has a son from a previous relationship (which broke up 2.5 years ago after 18 years together). Since then i have found out that he has been "cheating" - he met a woman at the same time as me who he feels he has a "deeper connection" with than me and swears that he is in love with her! The thing is that she lives in the States (he lives and works in the UK), he has met her only once (so he says), she has a two year old son and is going through a divorce herself. They have been corresponding through webcam, text/email and phonecalls almost daily. When i found out, i ended the relationship but now i find that i cant move on. Subsequently he has now sent me a text message saying he is "thinking of me and cant help himself"! Why oh why is he doing this (getting in contact with me) and how can i get over him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): hmm..i think he just used to play with girls..I mean he is not serious to both of you that he is dating..the fact: he is a totally playboy he cheated to his wife whom he has a children with..so forget him he is a totally an asshole so...get rid off him
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi there all . .thank you for the information that you have supplied. One thing .. he hasnt come back to me because the other one didnt work out. I dumped him when i found out it was and still is i believe going on. And, which is i think the root of the issue, i am incredibly jealous (because he says that they have this "special connection") and feel that he is holding all the cards and my life has stopped and his is carrying on as per normal. How do i start my life again as a single person? I gave my all and now am left with nothing .. please help
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reader, Deema +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Men just love it when you don't chase them, so if you stopped all contact he would find that interesting. Theres a great book called 'the Rules' explains all of it. The longer you don't respond the more he will want you, but chances are when he's got you he won't find you so interesting again. Its all game playing, and do you really need that? Better luck next time I'd say, but sometimes we need to go the place we don't want to go to to finish it off and be able to move on completely. Touch I know. Good luck whatever you decide.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Hi
You're second choice and it didn't work out with the other 1. He likes the thrill of the chase, which is why he spent more time with you, but then decided to chase the other one, now thats gone tits, he's trying to woo you again.
I would steer clear of him if it was me. Even if he was genuine about missing you or whatever, i still wouldn't be happy with the fact he was cheating anyway.
Its all very well 'dating' a few people at the same time when you first meet them, no one can slate that as long as its upfront, but 3 months?
Nah.
C xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): He's contacting you because for whatever reason things didn't work out with the other woman so he's falling back on his condolance prize - you. Cut off contact with him and keep busy in your life. You'll forget about him after a time.
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