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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:well its like this. i had this relationship with fazmi at first. we had the affair for abt ten or eleven months. we truly luvd each other. but we had to break up because my mum got to know about our relationship and she made a big mess. but i tried to explain to fazmi that i dont want him to leave and that i need him in my life and so on. meanwhile fazmiz best buddies named pulasthi had started luving me. i didnt know that neither did fazmi. but fazmi7s best friend fahim had known about this from the time pulasthi started luving me. that was when fazmi'z and mines begining of the relationship. then aftr we brokeup fazmi wanted to hook me up with pulasthi becase as soon as we brokeup fahim had told about pulasthi to fazmi. then fazmi use to call me and tell me that hez really a good guy and stuff like that. somehow he hooked me up with pulasthi. now am with pulasthi.pulasthi asked me out 3 timez. 3rd time i accepted him. in the begining evrything was so good. i mean his attitude. the way he talked to me. he didnt get pissed off like now. but there were small issues because of facebook. now its ok because i deactivated my account as he told me. pulasthi had an affair before too with a girl called ishani. they had being going out for 4 years but to see she had cheated him. thatz sad i no.. but am not a girl who cheats on guys like that. this was all yeaterday pulasthi.today pulasthi is totally differant. i mean these days hez scolding me with all the slang he could when he gets pissed of. he sometimes even cuts the phone when he gets angry, he also said to me one day that im boring. he says that am not his taste and so on. but he swears to me that he loves me. im confused. im hurt... today when he called me he said that he still loves his old girl friend ishani. then i started crying on the phone. dn latter he ent me a message telling that he was just kidding and all. and when i called him he was talking to me soo sweetly like never before and told me that hes really soorry to tell something like that for me.. he appologized.. i said ok.. n promised me he will never make that kind of jokes here after with me.. a little while ago he was texting me.. then i got late to reply for 1 message (about 10 mins i took) then he said i dont wanna disturb ur work bye tc. i said i was bc i was sorry and all but no responce. i asked him what he was doing then from about half an hour he messaged to me again that he doing nothing! i asked whether he is angry then to see he had switched off the phone. still the phone is off. these kind of silly things we fight. why has he changed? i dont want him to act like a baby. what might he be meaning by "your boring"? im confused... what u think am supposed to do to make him feel happy with me...? =(( you think he really loves me after all...? what should i do about this....??he said that im boring at a time he was soo pissed of with me. he knows to hurt me really well. its true that hes trying to control me.. but i cant beleive or imagine that he doesnt love me in a way.. because he lives in north of sri lanka and i live in the south of srilanka.. he came all the way just to meet me twice.. so he must be loving me rit..? ="( ="(
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 As we always say on Dear Cupid, " actions speak louder than words ". Saying I love you I love you it's the easiest thing in the world,- but then you have to ACT loving. Is he acting loving ? Not much.
Apparently he is being rude, irritable, curt. Now, if this it' s an once in a while thing, ..ok, everybody can have an off day every now and then, it's normal. But if he is constantly criticizing you and putting you down, - and then taking it back later- no darling, this is not love.
This would be a guy that's tired of the relationship and is stringing you along until he finds someone better.
You are very young, and often young people are very fascinated by what they can't have. Maybe that's way he "loved " you so much until you were with Fazmi. Kids always want their friend's toy- and when they get it , they lose interest. It happens quite often.
What you could do is to TALK to this boy, and tell him honestly what bothers you in the way he treats you , and why. If he cares about you, he will understand and will make at least some changes. If he does not, and acts as if that's only your problem, then- move on.You are soo young and there are so many potential partners for you !
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