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writes: is it normal for guys to only last no longer for 10 seconds? the guy im with now cant last longer then 10 seconds we even clocked it one day....its sad i feel like its getting in the way of our relationship i just dont know what to do i need help
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reader, jmac1344  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 10 seconds?
That seems a bit extreme, just curious... How old is your boyfriend?
Premature ejaculation is caused by anxiety, tell him to relax and breathe. Might help you out a bit.
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reader, JulietteElise  +, writes (14 February 2007):
 Along with everything else the other people said, like him cumming an hour or two before, and NOT to keep talking to him about the whole thing and thus makeing him insequre, as well as for him to pull out/stop movement when he feels hes close, i have a few other tips/tricks. One of which is for him to do extended forplay and going down on you, etc before you have sex so you have already orgasimed. However, for him to last longer inside of you, there are several other things he can do. At many adult stores and online adult store sites they sell something called a "cock ring" which is supposed to prevent the bloodflow from leaveing after he cums so he will stay hard longer to keep pleaseing you, as well as to even prevent him from cumming so quickly. Also sold are some "desenceatizers" in lube, pill, spray, and so forth, so he can last longer, and some of these, instead of makeing him numb, actualy increase his sensitivity but in a way that makes him last longer (no clue how that works, but it does apparently! lol). Also using condoms can help him last longer, and some of these also come with the "numbing" stuff inside to help him last longer. A site i love for all of this stuff (and so much more!!! yay!!) is adam and eve (adameve.com) because besides selling many of these products at resonable prices (and once a member you get lots of discounts through your e-mail... and free toys with purcheases!!!) they give reviews of many of the products written by people who have used the products, and the site dousnt JUST show the good reviews, but the bad reviews as well(!!!) so you can feel more confident with your buys, etc. Also.... there are some types of exercises he can do to try to last a bit longer, but i'm not really sure what these are... i just vaugly remeber reading about it somewhere so resurch would be needed. Another thing is for him to masterbate with a very tight grip so he eventually becomes less sensitive and can then last longer. However, my advice would be for him to use extended forplay and make you cumm beforehand, as well as useing a cockring and/or numbing products with a condom and to stop when he feels close. This is what i have found most helpfull because my b/f is also a premature ejaculator..... and yes... complaining all the time, etc will make him more insequre and feel horrible, and overall not help in regard to sex..... so please understand this upsets him too. best of luck!
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reader, Evangeline  +, writes (14 February 2007):
 Hi,
Sadi+ is right you must not keep bringing the 10 sec thing up otherwise he will become insecure and it will make things worse.
Why not try masturbating him or giving him a blow job an hour or two before you have sex - that way when it comes to having sex, he has come relatively recently and it is naturally harder for them to come again so quickly.
During forplay also get him to concerntrate on you more than you do on him, that way hes less likely to get too excited before hand.
Also there is nothing wrong with stopping and hugging during sex - if he feels like hes going to come too soon, let him come out of you and hug and kiss you for a bit so he calms down.
Hope this works - i have had a similar prob with my bf - and this seemed to work for us
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reader, Sadi +, writes (14 February 2007):
 If you keep throwing that 10 sec. in his face, hes going to develope an insecurity stage.. And it will only get worse,, Try different things.. Example, when foreplay comes into action... dont touch him.. Have him touch you... That way, your getting off too.. Try to spice things up...
Heres a great tip... If you have a "toy" , have him use it on you for a long time... Make him feel like he's the man ( so there's no insecurity issue... ) Another idea,, there are pills he can take.. Not ones that help him get hard, ones that help him keep the erection.
Dont base your relationship on your sex life.. Try these methods, and Im sure, you'll see a BIG difference.. Especially the tip I gave you with the foreplay.
-Good luck
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