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writes: I'm only 14 but I really like this boy. I am going out with him but I don't think he likes me and that he is using me. This is because he acts different around his mates, but when I'm alone with him he's different.What do you think I should do? I've confronted him but he says it's just me. Can you help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): hiya! im in the exact same position with my boyfriend and i think they do it to look and feel good in front of their mates then when hes alone with you he acts nice and loving because thats how he really feels about you. i dont think he is using you for sex as he wouldnt of asked you out in the first place so try and stay positive about yourself and dont let it get you down! xxxxxx xxxxx
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (6 July 2005):
The fact that he acts differently around his friends when he with you, does not necessarily mean that he is using you.Guys like to show off for each other, but act better when they are alone with a girl.But if his behaviour continues, I would suggest that he is too immature to meet your needs.You need a guy who treats you with respect, alone or in public.Set your standards...do not compromise.Some day you will meet a special guy who fills you with joy!
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reader, pops +, writes (4 July 2005):
It is just you. YOur a girl. He's a boy. He lives in Guy World. Guys his age are jerks. That is how he expects to behave around other guys. He may be a decent guy when he is with you alone, but he thinks he has to act up, be rude, crude, and socially unacceptable because that is the way Guy World expects him to act. Being a part of that world, at his age, is more important than being his true self to you or other girls. He will grow out of it. He will grow out it faster because you confronted him with his behavior. You did him a good turn. Wait long enough and he will repay you. Take a good look at Girl World, and see how awful it can be at times. Then think how boys will react to some of the behavior practiced and encouraged by Girl World. Then decide if you really want to participate, and why. By the time you have that sorted out, he will have Guy World sorted out, too.
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reader, kt  +, writes (4 July 2005):
 Don't worry. My mate's bf does the same thing! Sometimes boys can be shy when it comes to love, even the really confident ones. He probably likes you it's just that he tries to show off in front of his mates. He doesn't want to be a soft, lovey dovey person in front of them. Do don't worry. Next time if he does it - it's just him trying to look tough - rrr bless himgood luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2005): Hey, this is what every boy your age does (with the odd exception). If he's nice to you when you are alone together, you should assume he does really like you and isn't using you, if he is a bit mean to you when his mates are around, this is him trying to show his mates that he's not turned into a "girl" with emotions. Boys like to tease each other, but hate being teased.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (4 July 2005):
Most boys are like that at that age. I think its because they want to act 'big' in front of their friends and think theyll appear 'soft' if hey seem to care about their girlfriend. Tell him how this makes you feel and say that if it continues, you dont feel comfortable spending time with his friends anymore.
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