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writes: There is a man that I like very much. He lives far away and is at the moment to old for me but he is definitely a possibility for the future. The only problem is that while I am a virgin and I have never been in love or even kissed someone, he is not a virgin and he has been in love.Usually this doesn't bother me because I don't think about it. As far as I know he has only been in love once, and I am friends with that girl and she knows my feelings for him and hasn't shot me down. But sometimes, he'll just mention something about how he knows a certain position is hard, or another is easy or feels better, and it really upsets me. I guess it's not so much knowing he's had sex that bothers me, but the fact that I know more specifics. However, if I tell him to stop talking about it, he will as he doesn't want to hurt me and he doesn't talk about his past relationships usually unless I ask, which I've learned not to. He also doesn't like hearing about when I hang out with other guys, though he wouldn't tell me to stop if I did. I guess my question is: Is it unreasonable to ask him to stop when he talks about it? I always feel like I'm being a jealous girl, especially because we technically aren't even dating and he never asks me to stop when I talk about guys (even though I'm not interested in any of them.) Thankyou for you're answers, I'm used to be worried that I wouldn't be good enough in bed if we did get to that point, but he's told me not to worry about that, I really don't know why knowing bothers me as I have had feelings for other guys as well, even if they haven't been full on love. Thanks again!
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reader, Spades  +, writes (6 January 2010):
 Under the normal circumstances, It is completely reasonably to ask one to stop talking about their past relationships. But in this case I think it would depend on your relationship status with this man.
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