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writes:I think i have done the wrong thing with a friend and am afraid of how she thinks of me now. sorry its long..My good friend ( friend only!) is sick at the moment with headaches and back pain, she sleeps a lot and isnt able to work much, she is very angry and bad tempered when sick, which she has now told me but i didnt know until recently!I sent her a text message on sat, as i hadnt heard from her in 4 days,to ask how she was and to tell her what i had been doing, she didnt answer, (we have been close and usually text every 2-3 days and see each other twice a week,) when she didnt respond i was concerned and soi sent one message last night to say hi and call me when u are ok,. Im giving her space and i dont want to p*** her off, im concerned as a friend, and she is very p*** off when sick. I saw her today for about half an hour after she finished work, at her work. She said she hates getting texts when sick and ppl should leave her completely alone when she is sick. I told her i was just trying to be a freind but she didnt listen as she had a headache, cant eat and was angry with being sick for over a week. I gave her a necklace forxmas which she loved and said she would wear but she had taken it off.She was so angry i didnt know what to say to her.im not going to text or call again!have i done somehing wrong by texting? only wanted to be nice but now know that shes needs lots of space!! do u think she will contact me again? Have other friends,but she is probabaly my best freind, but has a nasty side ive found..i dont deserve her nasty mood. im sorry for her but..advice appreciated thanks.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (27 January 2010):
Have you ever had an ongoing headache?
I get them and let me tell you... when she got up that morning and staggered into work, she didn't not wear your necklace on purpose.
She probably wasn't capable of doing it up. I've gone to work with a headache and found at lunch time that my bra is inside out and I'm not wearing socks.
As for the snappy reply, she was ill, she just wanted to get out of there. She was not herself.
I'm sure she'll be sorry about what happened. You just have to let her off a bit.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Boombadaboom  +, writes (27 January 2010):
 You haven't done anything wrong at all. It's only the way she must be when she's not feeling well. The fact that you only now realised makes me think you didn't notice this side from her before? I think that means she'll be the way you usually know her for the greatest amount of time. Accept her, for good and for bad, or don't. It's simple. You might want to take a little more distance when she's sick, though :)
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