A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm in a rather uncomfortable situation and I don't have a clue how to handle it at all! It concerns my girlfriend's mother. She's what I can only describe as a "sex pest". I don't know any other way of describing her behaviour. When I first started seeing my girlfriend, nearly three years ago now, her behaviour was what many people would consider normal. My girlfriend got approval from her mother, saying I was gorgeous and "well done". As time went on, it became clear that her mother had an attraction to me. Even my girlfriend said that her mother fancies me but not to worry as it's "just like a school girl crush". Her mother started sitting closer to me and also touching me (not in a rude way but for longer than necessary).A couple of weeks ago, my girlfriend's mother came to stay with us for the weekend. My girlfriend announced out of the blue that she was going to the cinema in the afternoon to see a film, one I didn't want to see. This left me alone with her mother. I had no reason to be uncomfortable about this, or so I thought. When my girlfriend left, her mother said that she was going in the shower and I continued to work on my laptop. Time passed and my girlfriend's mother appeared wearing a bath robe. Still no reason to be uneasy really, right? She sat down on the settee to read, I had my back to her as I was still using my laptop at the table. A few mintues has passed and I noticed that she was breathing heavily and this broke my concentration. I turned round and she was sat on the settee with her robe open and she was masturbating! I was gobsmacked! She told me she wanted me "inside her". I immediately left the room in shock but she followed me and cornered me. She attempted to get me out of my jeans but I managed to stop her. She told me that she will "have me sooner or later" and then she disappeared to the bathroom. My girlfriend came home, not soon enough, and I felt very uncomfortable. My girlfriend could tell something was wrong but I just said that I was a bit overworked. I'm not sure if I should tell my girlfriend about what happened as it would probably destroy the relationship between mother and daughter. I've recently started to receive very explicit text and picture messages from her mother. I'm approaching breaking point. Should I tell her and if so, how?
View related questions:
crush, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Hi, that must of been very horrible for you. I think you should listen to the post's, tell you gf, I question showing her the pictures because its good to show proof but the down fall might be your gf might say why even keep them. that might only happen if she saw it without you telling her, so do tell her soon b4 she see's these txt and assumes the worse. Hope that help!!!!!
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): omg, this woman is practically raping you and you have allowed her to disrespect you, your home and obviously her daughter. this woman sound like she will f*ck anyone and everyone and that includes you. so please tell her daughter, more out of respect for your gf. i think if your father was trying it on your gf you would expect her to tell you, right? so makes sense to tell the gf, before the mother switches the tales and tell her that you are the sex pest trying to force her to have sex! do not trust this woman. she is bad news and she will destroy your life with her daughter. please do not be foolish and give in to her. the thing about her mastubating in front of you is just so so gross. she needs to be stopped. her sexual manipulation of you will continue until you put a stop to her. time to sit the gf down and tell her EVERYTHING.
...............................
A
female
reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (27 July 2009):
 Go to the police with those pics. Tell your gf what is going on. Stop going to your gf's house.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): You have been sexually assaulted. Tell this " mother" that she is to leave you alone or you will call the police on her for sending unsolicited porn and assaulting you sexually. If this were happening to your girlfriend and an older relative on your side then you would realize it is assault. That woman even threatened you by telling you that " she would eventually have you. "
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): I think you should tell your GF. She needs to know that her mom is acting this way toward you. Yes, it will probably cause problems, but more problems will develop if you don't tell your GF about it. And like the other poster said, her mom's not going to stop this behavior until someone confronts her about it. Unless of course, this was a scheme cooked up by both your GF and her mom to either test you, or a sick twisted scheme where your GF gave her mom the OK to have sex with you. I think it was very weird that she would suddenly announce she's leaving to go the cinema without telling you in advance, and leaving you with her mom in the shower. Sounds like a little suspicious. So yes, tell your GF and post back here after you have so that all of us can know how this turned out. Good luck.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): This is a very awkward situation to be in, but I think unless you tell your girlfriend what's going on, her mum isn't going to stop. She probably knows you're aware of the damage it can cause between her daughter and her, and doesn't think you'll do anything about it. And for some delusional reason, thinks you might eventually give in to her.
I think telling her would be the the forward. Tell her calmly when you're at home and explain why you haven't told her before, as she's likely to ask this. You should keep the texts and pictures (although you may not want to show her the pictures, it would be very disturbing for your girlfriend to see them) and use this as proof, if she doesn't believe you. Also keep in mind that if her mum doesn't admit to it she may turn it around and say you came onto her, so be ready to give an explanation to get out of that one!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): Tell her, if your girlfriend found these pics and messages shed assume an affair, then youve lost her. She obv. doesnt care about her daughter if shes trying to bed her boyfriend and if it does ruin the relationship the mother should have thought about the outcome before she did anything. You should so tell your girlfriend asap!!
...............................
A
female
reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (27 July 2009):
 you should definately tell her!
you just explain to her what happened keep the texts and picture messages as proof to your girlfriend (not something she'll want to see obviously) but it shall be proof none the less.
you can't continue like this it'll ruin your relationship and she needs to know what her mother is getting up to when she's not around.
Hope this helps.
x ilovebowsandcherries x
...............................
A
female
reader, kayla20 +, writes (27 July 2009):
 i think the best thing to do is sit your gf down and explain to her that u feel uncomfortable being left alone with her mother as you feel like she is trying it on with you.i think you should tell her exactly what her mother had said to you aswel as showing her the texts she sent you as well as the picture messages to prove that you are not lying.she has a right to know what her mother is doing as it will eventually ruin your relationship with your gf at the end of the day your gf will be upset and angry with her mother but its her mother and she will eventually get over it and forgive her so dont worry about that
...............................
|
