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writes:I met this girl "megan" 2 yrs ago through work, she was dating a jerk to say the least. she was madly in love with him and couldnt see how big of an ass he was. A few months after meeting her she got pregnant, he cheated on her several times through out her pregnancy and then finally she broke up with him a few months before her son was born. They remained close and he was there when their son was born. I have had feeling for her since the day I met her but with everything going on in her life I never told her about them. 6 months ago I asked her out and she said yes. We have a great relationship, I love her and her son. The only down fall is her ex. He is a great dad I will give him credit for that but he is ALWAYS around. We took her son the the beach for the first time and she called her ex and met us there, she said that since it was his first timeshe thought that his father have the chance to be there too. we recently moved in with each other (2 weeks ago) I had no idea how much time they spent together until now. he comes by every day for a coupel of hours, some days he will take her son out and do things with him other times they will hang out at our apartment. there are pictures of the 3 of them everywhere. he calles of texts several times I day to just check in. I dont want to me rude or try and push the kids dad away but its a little to much. I will admit I'm jealous of the relationship they have with each other. Every time I coem home from work he is there. what can i do to get ove rmy jealousy but also show her that he is around to much
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (21 August 2011):
This is the lifestyle you chose and obviously your girlfriend is comfortable with it too.
You really need to speak to her to see if 1) she still has feelings for the ex and 2) if they can work out a visitation schedule that allows you and her to have a relationship.
If she still has feelings for him (1) then forget about making it to (2) and I would just plain leave. But if you can get her understanding on this, then you can start to take control.
Is there any reason he can't just have the son for awhile over at his place so you two can have a relationship? I don't think its just the son he wants to be in contact with. I wonder, does this guy have a new woman? I will bet he doesn't.
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