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writes:Is my worry justified when my girlfriend is hanging out with her best female friend and the guy who her friend seems hellbent on replacing me with?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): I, at least, have found that most women are taken in one way or another. Whether they have bfs, bf prospects, or are emotionally unavailable, they aren't just waiting there exclusively to be plucked. And if they are its rare. All the good ones are taken in one way or another.
So.. I know some people will hate me for this, but you gotta take what you want. If you sit around waiting for the perfect woman that is also completely free and unattached, you will be waiting quite a while my friend.
I mean don't get me wrong,keep it moral. I try to. If you feel the girl is with a good guy, don't mess with that. But.. if you think she's with some guy that don't deserve her... then mess :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMinor update. Ive been trying to date but all ive achieved is getting led on by one girl who seemed awesome and just met a bunch of taken girls my life story....this is why ive never had a gf really.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2010): yeah...fade back.
date others. If she comes back to you, good. But keep in mind she left you. Would you take her back? All these things need to be considered.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd the guys isnt even legal to drink and has several traits she hates and im sure she will realize fast this guy is not going to work and just from basic knowledge pushes her anger buttons.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI got replaced the night after I posted this, i was worried she would maybe do this. The thing is she is already dating a jerk. She hates drinking for good reason and he has beer pong on his profile..
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): I would suggest trying to be understanding of her viewpoint. The parents can make life a living hell for her if they don't approve of you. Plus society is against it as well.
Fade back a bit, if you can. Women love a man that respects the boundaries they set. It will be difficult, but try to always be mostly calm in your dealings with her, unless you two get back together that is.. then be as passionate as you want.
Here's the caveat, if you show yourself to be more understanding than, say, her parents, or her friends.. she will come back to you despite all that, eventually. But not if you give her all the momentum by chasing and begging. That's why you gotta fade back. Respect her boundaries, and hope for the best.
One more thing, she is dating others? You have to do the same. Bless
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): ummm you didnt mention in your origional post that she had already left you.The best answer I can give is that it doensnt matter why she left you. Let yourself get over her and move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe replaced me with the guy and im heartbroken but at the same time i understand why. I uploaded this from my cellphone which limits how much i can post. Basically her parents wont meet me talk to me or accept me on any level because she is younger then me by 3 years. So she cant really see me without risking getting in trouble till she turns 18 in two years. It eats at me she could just say its over for now and choose a guy she doesnt even know hardly over me. In one night she dropped me and chose him, she has only known him for one night. I dont think i really want to date her ever now if she can just drop the close relationship we had without warning just because i rarely get so see her. I talked to her whenever she wanted and kept being social to make things bearable.
She had liked me for 2 years before all this and when we tried to get together her parents denied me without even letting me say one word that hurt and then this happend.
I also found out im lactose intolerent this week too and almost lost a friend because i said one wrong thing when he was in a bad mood. Ive probably had one of the worst weeks of my life.
Why is she still saying she loves me but she can drop me like that? I was willing to wait for her but she wont wait for me i guess..
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): From what you have said there is nothing to worry about.
When someone is pushed on you, they become unattractive to you
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 March 2010):
As long as your relationship is a happy one, and as long as she is happy, there should be no problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): Any time your girl hangs out with a guy more than you, you are justified to worry.
Unless the guy is family or something.
Add to that the dynamic of this friend not approving of you and wanting to replace you, and yeah, I'd say your worry is justified.
As to what you should do,, not enough info. Like for instance, how is the relationship going with your gf? Is everything as it should be? Things like that will provide more clues as to your overall situation.
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