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writes:I'm so confused right now. I'm 15, and I know that deep inside, I'm straight, or at least bisexual - I want a relationship with a girl, and I've had sexual experiences with girls in the past. However, several years ago I got caught messing with a girl (who seriously turned me on) and got in a lot of trouble. I have never had many guy friends (although I really want them), it's just been girls. At this point, I'm almost only turned on by guys (I've watched gay porn for several years now and that's all that gets me hard). Deep down though I still feel attracted to girls, but like I've suppressed it somehow, by watching gay porn, getting in trouble for being with a girl, and not being around many guys, but wanting to be. I don't want to be gay... what should I do?
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reader, der_zyniker +, writes (25 March 2010):
I just want to start with I'm not trying to make this about me, but this what I went through. I think that you are going throught the same thing. I know it's hard to be gay or accept that you are. I tryed denying it to myself for years. Deep down I feel atracted to girls too, but on a social level. I want to be attracted to girl because I want to have kids, but the fact is that I'm not. I fell in love with one of my best friends who is a guy. I think you feeling like your attration toward women is supressed is might be you wishing that you were attracted to girl. I don't like the fact that I'm gay either, but that is just the way things go. If you are gay then the only thing you can do is accept it. You can't choose whether you are gay or straight. I tryed to become straight, but nothing worked.
But take your time. You'll figure out whether you are gay or staight. My suggestion is to not try to force yourself to be gay or straight. When you are having sexual thoughts just let them flow freely and don't try to direct them. That may eliminate some of your confusion. Either way I'm sure that some day you will find someone you love very much who loves you too.
I wish you nothig but the best. Good luck figuring this out.
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reader, maymay111 +, writes (24 March 2010):
Hey, Im 15teen to and trust me you may want to be straght but ohistley think a little bit, do you just want to love girls or do you relly love girls! and by the way i was in the same trobles as you but i was 12 when all this happend! and i am 15teen now and im gay! i even thoght the same things you did! But i would just exept it you are probuly gay! sorry if this was a little harsh! but its youre choice do whatever makes you happy!
sincerely:
Maymay111
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): Thanks so much for the help!
Could I be making myself more gay-inclined by watching gay porn?
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reader, Tasmanian devil  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 It sounds to me all signs point to bi, you can't choose sexuality, your still a teen this could be you just experimenting or maybe the lack of male friends/surplus of female is making you feel more feminine in the end of the day there must be reasons for your male attractions and you probli are bi
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reader, kevin3007 +, writes (20 March 2010):
 when you put a goal in your head you can reach for it dude you don't want to be gay then don't be a gay and you know deep inside you're straight so why you're making from it a big deal there is one thing you can do just stop all these questions of am i gay? am i turning gay? get all these ideas out of your mind and live a straight life cause once you believe you're staight inside all these problems will go away .......enjoy you're life and don't wase it with silly questions......good luck man
ps:try to spend more time with your father or your brother it's so helpful be a man cause you're a strong man .
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reader, Luckie128 +, writes (20 March 2010):
Give it time and don't rush. Get to know yourself first and what makes you happy. Ofcourse, experimenting may help or make matters worse.
What ever makes you happy within will makes it way out eventually.
People over 25 are still confused! This is normal
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): Thats easy.
Dont worry about it, you are still very young and have quite a way to go yet. Just be a teenager and have fun.
If you want more guy friends start following sport. In your country gridiron or whatever you call it would be best. Trust me I can start up a sport conversation with pretty much any guy.
As for being gay...if you are then you are so just accept it and definately dont live a lie
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