A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I cheated on my girlfriend we have been together for two about half years it was hard for me to tell her but I did she was so angry with me, I felt like the scum of the earth knowing what I had did to her it was so hard to hear her cry that much I apoligized to her mom and dad for doing what I did to her and her family they accepted my apology, now my girlfriend wants her space to think which I am giving her and she wants to start over agin with me like we did when we first starting dating I don't know if that's a good thing or bad but I do love this woman and I want to prove to her she can trust me and love me again what does everyone else think.
View related questions:
cheated on my girlfriend Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, galadriel_vi +, writes (17 February 2009):
Hi my ex fiance cheated on me a little over a year ago. He never came honest with the situation. I had to literally pull the truth and found out the hardway. None the less i forgave him. His excuse he was drunk, we had an argument that night and we said it was over. So that same night two hours later he was in bed with someone else. This december i went to visit my sons for 10 days. Unbeknownst to be his ex girlfriend came down from CA. He had dinners with her and an affair that lasted the 10 days. Of course i didn't know anything, I suspected but didn't know. Once again i told him lets be honest because that is the only way the relationship will survive. If i can't trust there is no relationship. The last time he cheated i healed on my own and he did nothing to help me gain my confidence. This weekend while he was stone drunk i asked him casually, "did you had sex with your ex" the answer was Yes. I felt so hurt mostly because he was going to lie his way through the relationship had i not been so smart to wait until he was drunk to question him. If you know who you are and are sure that you can be a faithful person then go for it. If you didn't came up front on your own and your girlfriend had to question you then i see it as a problem. She will always wonder if you would have ever been truthful on your own adn what were your intentions. If you are not a faithful person leave her alone, being with her is selfish and you will hurt her again. If you still love her and know you are an unfaithful man, then seek psychological help. You need to help yourself first and then come back to her as a healed man. That is my advice. By the way, i terminated my relationship with my fiance.
A
female
reader, huneygyrl +, writes (16 February 2009):
 You didn't love her when you cheated on her? You wasn't thinking about your relationship. When you cheated on her? Of course, she needs the space to think things over. I will give you this though...you apologized to her family for hurting her. The hard work comes when she gains your trust. It will take some time, a lot of time.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): If you aren't ready to be faithful then you owe it to her to end this relationship. If you truly regret your actions and have learned your lesson, then you are going to have to do ALL OF THE WORK to earn her trust back.
That means saying your sorry and really looking into her eyes to see the pain you have caused her and you will say your sorry for as long as it takes her to forgive you.
After that your work is not done. You will be agreeable to being "monitored" and this may make you feel like you have a controlling girlfriend. My suggestion to you is to get over it. Give her your email passwords, disable text messaging on your phone with the phone company and allow her to see your call records. Let her call and check up on you when you are apart, better yet, you call her on your own to check in with her and find out how her day is going.
And most importantly, stop cheating.
...............................
A
female
reader, megan melevolant  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 you should give it another go
if you truely love her you wont do it again.
you are a brave man for addmitting it and also saying sorry to the mum and dad.
you do deserve her love again
go for it!
good luck
...............................
A
male
reader, letsgofishing +, writes (16 February 2009):
very few folks are lucky to be forgiven and given another chance in such a situation. go ahead and prove i to her that you love her a lot. you seem like a nice person.
...............................
|
