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writes:So me and my girlfriend have been on a break for a month. So within that one month, I've tried leaving her alone, and just focus on improving myself as a person. Not just for her, but for me too. When she first wanted to go on a break, she said that it would be best if we not see each other at all, so she can get a chance to miss me. She keeps in touch with me, but we sometimes end up arranging something to hangout. I'll be honest, it's both of us that agree on meeting up. We hung out maybe 4-5 times during this 1 month break. When we hangout, we talk like we're just friends, because we are. But then later when she calls me, she says that she feels like I'm not giving her space, and that she still feels like the break up just happened, and that she still hasn't had a chance to miss me. WTF! Should I just ignore her? But I'm afraid that if I do ignore her, she might just completely forget about me. At the same time, I'm afraid that if I continue to keep in touch with her, she might just place me in the "friend zone." What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI also forgot to mention that we were pretty much like best friend before we went out. That's why it's really hard to get over this. Feels like I lost my best friend, and my lover.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 February 2010):
This sounds to me like you're being kept on a leash. Don't ignore her, but explain to her that she wanted a break, and since she is continually then meeting with you and saying that she hasn't missed you, you have decided not to meet up until she is sure about how she feels. And mean it. Don't meet her until she is sure about how she feels. This sounds suspiciously like she is having her cake and eating it. Don't be kept on a leash. Let her have her break, give her a time limit of not meeting (another months), then decide whether she is worth waiting for anymore.
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