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writes:My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months. Things have been going perfect til about 3 months ago. The intimacy stopped. I chucked it up to her getting sick and the move I was going through. We talked about it long and hard and we decided to get an apartment together. After moving everything which the process took 2 days back breaking and extreme pain she continued to not be as intimate. I've tried to make moves and she states she isn't in the mood. Ive tried simple things as holding her hand and kissing her and she steps away. I really do love this girl. She everything I've ever dreamt for. A few days ago I asked her about the lack of intimacy and she stated she wants some space. How do I go about doing that when we live together. I can't sleep and eat because this is bothering me. I really care about her and I want to give her what she needs but at the sametime I'm afraid of losing her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2010): It's going to be really hard but I feel being with my girl feels right. The pain of heartbreak is unbearable to me. I haven't put myself out there for a long time and being in the relationship now feels like bliss. The problems we are having are causing me to not eat and sleep. My heartbeat races It feels like I'm having a heartattack. I can't help to think maybe during all o the packing and moving I failed to show her how much she means to me. We haven't really gone anywhere due to my current financial situation. I've taken a slight step back going out with some friends and doing things alone. Things seems a little better. We had a double date lastnight which went well. I noticed one thing. A bad habit came back not even realizing I complimented her in a joking manner. I think that might be having a negative effect. I'm usually very romantic but with all of the thing inhad to prepare for lately I guess I lost track of myself. My question is should I continue to take a step back and hold my feelings in or should I plan something romantic for her?
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (8 July 2010):
I think there are 3 answers to this.
She loves you, enough to move in with you, but not in an intimate way anymore. More of a brother or sister way.
Or secondly she is a very controlling person and is doing this to see how far she can control you. Maybe she felt you were having too much sex before and she wants to control the slow down. This is not good for any man and a definate red flag.
The third is something is really wrong in her life and it has killed her sex drive. If it is # 3, you need to ask her to tell you, and that you'll understand. Give her a few days after you say this.
I think the answer, in the end here, is to break up. There needs to be a shakeup. If she is holding something from you, it will come out here. If not, it's time to find someone less controlling or more into you. I don't think you deserve this. Good luck.
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reader, 11muds11 +, writes (8 July 2010):
I think there are 3 answers to this.She loves you, enough to move in with you, but not in an intimate way anymore. More of a brother or sister way.Or secondly she is a very controlling person and is doing this to see how far she can control you. Maybe she felt you were having too much sex before and she wants to control the slow down. This is not good for any man and a definate red flag.The third is something is really wrong in her life and it has killed her sex drive. If it is # 3, you need to ask her to tell you, and that you'll understand. Give her a few days after you say this.I think the answer, in the end here, is to break up. There needs to be a shakeup. If she is holding something from you, it will come out here. If not, it's time to find someone less controlling or more into you. I don't think you deserve this. Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 July 2010):
The time has come for her to be honest here. You need answers. You're right, how can you give her space when you live together. But perhaps that is the problem? You've been together for 6 months, and the intimacy then stopped at 3. Now you live together. It seems to me like all this has moved too fast, and she's changing her mind about it all. Give her a few days to think by herself, then talk to her again and ask her to be honest.
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