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writes: Hi Everyone I really dont know what to think anymore with my partner.Firstly her work is getting to me.She sometimes goes to work and tells them every aspect of our relationship,i feel they know more about me than i do myself.And sometimes im judged by them for this like im too outspoken or i have a way with words,which in fairness i do but always in a cival manner not in a harsh way i have always been like this as i believe in speaking your mind.They have 3 xmas parties coming up and partners is not invited,i dont really have a problem with this as such,but i feel a bit fed up with tagging along any other time when they are.I feel xmas is a time for friends and families and yet we arent welcome.And she keeps going about how great they will be but now im fed up with it and feel well as im not bothered about now why the hell should i fall in line the rest of the year when then im good enough to tag along as a partner probally just to make the numbers up.And im always thinking what is she saying about me and how do they look at me or have they already judged me on what she has said to them.I just feel a little bit of disrespect and trust on her part or am i over reacting? thanks xxx
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reader, pica +, writes (30 November 2006):
Have to say I have known women like this (not so much men) .. every little detail of their lives has to be talked about. Their lives are more or less lived out loud. It puts me off telling them things about myself because I know it will get endlessly repeated to everyone they know which is not always what I would like. Chances are though your wife has always been like this .. why is it annoying you now especially? It sounds like a couple of things have annoyed you and you are unhappy with the relationship. Talk to her about it??
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006): I think you might be overreacting about this a little.
First of all, most women spill the details of what they have been up to with thier partner, its not a personal thing all women do it.
Its just the way women are with eachother, women tend to speak to their friends about almost everything, good or bad!. so dont worry her friends will be hearing good things about you too.
But I dont see why you would be so bothered by these womens opion of you?, they really arent any friends or relations of yours so why would you really care what they think?.
I mean its not like they are disowning you, because you was never really part of the group!.
When women chat about what they have been doing with their partners, its the same as you talking to your guy mates about your favourite sports or your favourite computer game.
so try not to worry about it too much.
And about the christmas party thing, alot of companies dont invite partners it just costs them too much, its quite expesive to hire out a place and then you have food and drink on top of that...........the list goes on!.
So dont be down over it, its not really a big deal.
as long as you love eachother and your both happy in the relationship then thats all that matters.
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