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anonymous
writes:My girlfriend and I recently went to a lakehouse with one of her friends. Her friend brought her boyfriend and 2 of his guy friends. We had only met the boyfriend for lunch once and had never met the other two. We stayed there together for 2 nights. We got drunk both nights, but no one got "wasted." My girlfriend kept suggesting all kinds of strip games, like strip jenga and strip beer pong. We didn't play any game too long and got dressed after every game. During the last night I was there, we played truth or dare. When it was my girlfriend's turn to be dared, she told the guy to dare her to get naked, then did. She sat in front of guys we just met, naked the rest of the night. After that, we drove to our college, but then she decided to drive back to the lakehouse alone. She spent 2 more nights there with the same people, without me. My question is, should I be worried and how should I approach her about it?
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reader, jasminen +, writes (20 August 2015):
 Let me give it to you straight. I'm a woman and your blind. Your girlfriend is sexually attracted to one or both of them. How is your sex life with her? Is she kinky and open or reserved with you. But I will tell you if I did that it would have been for one reason. To have sex with them. She sounds great to me but too you your girlfriend exposing herself to complete strangers is interesting. Did you ask her what she did when she went back there?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 August 2015):
 Uh I'd dump her in heartbeat.
A girl doesn't do that to her boyfriend. Seem seems rather desperate for attention and that is why she went back for more.
No matter why she did it, I would NOT be OK with my partner doing this. It would be bye-bye.
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reader, meccamega  +, writes (19 August 2015):
I would never do this to my partner. Alcohol isnt good enough excuse.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (18 August 2015):
 "she told the guy to dare her to get naked". So basically she WANTED to get naked for strangers. She did exactly that then went back for more.
What does this tell you about her?
I'm really surprised you're asking if you should be worried; you should have ended the relationship that instant and moved away. This is a no-brainer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2015): Hi there.How long have you been with this girl? Because in all honesty I don't know why someone would be have like this other than utter disregard and disrespect for you as their boyfriend, and who is a total exhibitionist. This is not normal or acceptable, and for her go back without you - I'd say the relationship is dead in the water if I'm honest. Weather she cheated or not- you will never know, but what you do know is that she decided to orchestrate a situation whereby a stranger told her to take all her clothes off in front of him, everyone there and her boyfriend, which she relished in doing, and you my friend went along with it and would have looked quite the idiot. The question is why did you do nothing here? You deserve someone who doesn't treat your relationship or you in this manner
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (18 August 2015):
 if youre going to involve booze in your activities accept any and all consequences of it including the need to take out the trash.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (18 August 2015):
 I think you should be thoroughly unimpressed and seriously re-think your interest in her.
She's that desperate for attention that she's coaching others into giving her an opportunity to be naked around them, she puts herself at risk by hanging out with men she's barely met and has already paraded naked in front of and she's made it blatantly obvious just what she thinks of you.
She's not someone people admire and keeping her around makes folks have less respect for you.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (18 August 2015):
Whether or not you should be worried is irrelevant, the fact of the matter is that you already are worried, and that's what we should be discussing.
Your girl is definitely an exhibitionist. She likes being the center of attention and loves showing off her body to others.
Does this mean she would cheat on you? No.
Does this mean she would not cheat on you? No.
Getting naked in front of others might be exactly as far as her little fantasy goes. Or, it could be the tip of the iceberg and she wants to get it on with any guy who is willing.
There's no way to tell which it is from your description. We need more info. Have you talked to her about it? Asked her what was up with the stripping and what she liked about it? Or did you say nothing?
You have to ask her about this. Gently, without accusations.
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